Why is it that everyone comments on how bad bankruptsy is for your credit and how it hurts your credit score?? Seriously if you are that far behind on credit card payments your credit is already messed up and remain that way for 7 years from the last activity....and if the credit card company sells your account to a bill collector it doesn't stop....they collectors are reporting the lack of payment and as long as they continue to haunt you then your credit will be shot. Filing bankruptsy puts a stop to the collectors calling you, it helps you get a new start on life and in the end it's a faster way to clear your good name. It's not like you have this great score and you file bankruptsy which ruins it, your credit score probably couldn't get any worse if you tried if you are behind on payments by a year!
As far as it not effecting your husband, check if your state is a commonwealth or not, if it is the collectors can go after your husband, if not you should be able to file on your own and not hurt his credit at all, if you are in a commonwealth (like I am in Massachusetts) it will not do any good to file on your own, the debt will automatically become his. I just went through this with our house, our lives are so much better since filing our chapter 7 bankruptsy. We now have a nice little savings account to use if something breaks in our house or for other emergencies and I have learned to live without credit cards and to have some impulse control with my spending habits.