THis really has nothing at all to do with debt or anything even related to that but I dont really have ayone I can go and talk to about this so I thought I would give it a try...i had this feeling that my boyfriend was talked to his ex girlfriends behind my back, so one day while he was in the shower i went through his cell phone, big mistake, and i saw some text messages from two of his ex girlfriends that he told me he never talked to anymore because they are "crazy", based on what they senid in the texts it looks like he was the one initiating the conversation. so i guess my question is should i say something to him about it all, i really wanna go through his phone again and i know thats bad but i have this feeling like something is just waiting there for me to find it.....we were sitting on the couch one day and i saw a text from one of his exes and i said something to him about it and he was like oh she was just saying hi then he was like what am i supposed to do just ignore her.. im like ummmm do you really even need a answer to that....so yeah what should i do? just go with my guy and tell him whats been going on or just ignore it cause i guess what i dont know cant hurt me?
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OK girlfriend...first rule of thumb...if you think your man is up to no good...then he probably is. I learned that the hard way and even married my idiot. Secondly, you will never be able to ignore it because you went through his phone and found out he was lying to you....so that will always be in the back of your mind. So here are you options: you can either confront him about it(do so calmly, and even then he probably will lie abou it) or you can wait to see if anything else turns up giving you concrete proof that he is up to no good. IT could be you just over reacting to a few text messages and freaking out....or itcould be more. I guess you need to decide if you trust him or not. Look at it this way: at least he isn't stealing your money and please don't get pregnant by him if you have doubts(dont want ya to end up like my dummy self)
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yeah he keeps talking about moving into my apartment, and he is slowly leaving more and more things at my place and talking about kids and stuff but now its like whenever he goes to take a shower he takes his phone if he walks in the kitchen to get a drink he takes his phone, to go to the bathroom he takes it, if he forgets it and he is just going to the kitchen to get a drink he will run back and get his phone then go back in the kitchen and get his drink....im tired of letting all these stupid guys treat me like this, but i hate being alone, i cant really blame anyone other then myself because i am the one letting them treat me like this
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Girl. LEt me tell ya...Lose the loser. I mean that in the nicest way possible but look at me...I married a guy who turned out to be a nightmare...He stole a ton of money from me, to the point where I had to take PDL's out to get by, now I have a negative checking account, and to top it off I am about to have his child any day now and have no way of supporting myself while on my unpaid maternity leave..DO YOU WANT THAT TO BE YOU? Trust me, I love my son and wouldn't change him for the world but its not the ideal situation. Its stressful and I spend most of my nights crying over it. You don't need. If he is that paranoind about leaving his phone lie around for even a minute, then he is probably up to no good. You need to discuss this with him.
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im tired of men. im to the point where i dont even care anymore. im just going to focus on work and paying my stupid bills. i dont like being alone but whetever single life here i come
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Honey...best time of my life was the year and half I lived on my own all alone with no one but the dogs and cats....I would give anything to have it back(but I would not give up my son)
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yeah, guess it just sucks when ya basically have no one. i dont really ave that many friends. and i mea its not like im some weird looking thing that people are afraid to talk to lol i am a pretty decent looking girl its just a lot of people are shady and i dont let them in my life so therefore i have no one in my life...ahhh what a wonderful world :-)
You will be surprised once you are on your own what you find you enjoy...I found out some very interesting things about myself and that I enjoy things that I never thought I would. YOU learn to entertain yourself..Its not so bad.
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Ladies, Ladies, men are not smart creatures! :D
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very true! i dont know why men think we will never find out about things and we always do find out about it, ALWAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!
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My x husband didnt think I would find out about the woman he was chatting to online/and calling the house at all hours of the night but guess what? Tweety did find out! :twisted: divorce can be such a blessing!
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