Problem is, most of the problems are coming from the junk debt buyers! These are the folks that buy old debts that no one is interested in pursuing any longer. They buy them for anywhere from less than a penny per $100 to 25 cents or more per $100 owed. These junk debt buyers then routinely use illegal tactics to break people down to get them to pay...even if they pay just one payment and stop paying again, the junk debt buyer has made way over 100% profit! And many of these junk debt buyers do not report any payments you may make accurately on your credit report, or fraudulently sell it to another junk debt buyer after a person has paid it in full to the first junk debt buyer!
In my very personal opinion, ONLY the original creditor should be able to collect money on any debt. They may hire an agency or attorney to do the leg work for them, but it should come down to the original creditor getting the money. I do not agree with lining some junk debt buyer's pockets, while the OC gets only a few bucks for selling the debt!!! The OC cares about gaining and keeping customers...so they are not going to use sneaky tactics to get you to pay! They don't want complaints against them with attorney generals and such...they don't want the negative attention! Junk debt buyers, on the other hand, do not care! They don't have to worry about gaining and keeping customers, and if they get only 10% scared enough to pay up, they are making a huge profit! They will do whatever they have to....including breaking the law! Enough complaints are made, they close shop, and open up under a new name, and start the harassment all over again!
I tried being nice to the lady from Genesee Valley; however, the moment I asked for an address so that I may validate their claim (and I asked very nicely, by the way...."Could I please have an address where I may write to request validation of this debt?"), she went on the super defensive! The call did not have to turn ugly, and not once did I cuss at her. All she had to do was say, "Yes, our address is....." But the lady at Genesee immediately went on the defensive, and though she kept saying she had no problem giving me the address, she would always immediately return to arguing the validity of her claim against me. I asked several times, "What is the problem with just giving me an address?" Each time the answer was, "I have no problem giving you and address, but....." and she would go on stating why she thought Genesee had a valid claim against me, and then saying that I was the one arguing!! I have the whole phone conversation recorded (in Texas, that IS allowed). "We sent a letter on 8/16." "Well, I did not receive a letter." "Well....I can't control if people read their mail and throw it away!" That was her real response!!! My husband had a similar situation with an account he was sure he paid off years ago. When he stated (nicely as well) that he did not receive any correspondence from them, and asked for an address to request validation, the response was, "Sure, sir, no problem. The address is ________. We will also send another notice out to you today." With that, they said their goodbyes, and my husband proceeded to send a letter requesting verification of the debt, which he still has yet to get a response from!
And with the original creditor, in my case, I did explain very nicely to them that I had gone through a divorce, was trying to make ends meet, wanted to know if there was some option (other than immediate payment in full), etc. The guy I talked to had me in tears by the time I finally hung up the phone, going so far as calling me a bad parent for not paying my debts (when I tried to explain I was unable to pay due to having to feed my kids and keep a roof over their heads), and said that CPS should be called out on me for child neglect!!!! I was being nice, offering to fax to him my divorce papers and pay stubs to prove to him I wasn't giving him some sob story! What I got was name calling and terrorism! I tried a couple of more times to work things out...getting different agents on the phone each time, but still got the same rude treatment. I decided I did not need the abuse (had enough of it in my marriage), and cut off contact! After the SOL, they sold the debt off, and now I'm dealing with these junk debt buyers!!!
As for how I would react if someone owed me money? Well, I could promise you I would show a lot more compassion! I am owed money...lots of money in child support and medical reimbursements from my ex husband...an amount in the $10,000's. My ex has not been in my son's life, and believe it or not, I have filed a motion to drop all child support arrears when my husband adopts my son!!! The reason I had to do it that way is because a judge will not drop the child support obligation unless another parent steps up to the plate...judges want kids supported by 2 parents. Some think it is the dumbest thing I could do...letting my ex get off scott-free...but what worth is it to me to expend energy and money to get money out of him that he will not pay voluntarily?
Also, if I did loan out money, if the person hit hard times and couldn't pay me back, I WOULD forgive them the loan. On top of that, even if the person didn't hit hard times, there would be a point in time I would just give it up...5 years, 6 years...I would just let it go! Not worth the stress! And that is the truth!