Joanne- I feel your pain, I don't have an answer for what you should do, but I would be very careful in choosing a debt relief program. I went that route in 2008, my debt was just over $20,000, they would work with my creditors & after paying a monthly payment for approx. 40 months everything would be okie-dokie. Well it's been 27 months now, I've paid over $10,500.00 towards my dept (oh wait did I forget to tell you, they said my debt would be settled at around 40%/$9,000 & some change), ok where were we, yeah, $10,500.00 & so far 2 cards have been settled. Thats 2 out of 9 cards. Today, with accrued penalties & interest on the other 7 cards, I owe approx. over $25,000.00. I was told not to deal with the creditors, that was their job, they would take care of that for me. I could have taken all the deals & been close, if not out of debt. So please, don't dig the hole any deeper. If they want a big fee up front, "scary". Take Care & Good Luck. Jim