I agree with both sides here
we should be happy that people are trying to verify identity
yet we are suspicious of providing proof of identity to anyone over the phone
most of the time these days when people ask me for S.S. they ask for last 4 numbers..and I am comfortable with doing that over phone..also many credit card statements now only have last 4 numbers on card on them...all because of identity fraud...

super posts to both of you very caring people!!!!