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I came back early in the morning after a lot of seminars and meetings I had to go through. The first thing that I was dying for was to log in the board and see you guys. It never happened earlier that I was away from here for a week. I wanted to see you all together and keeping this board in place. Sadly enough, I might have over-expected few things. I ran through a few posts where some people are offended by other's comments and deciding that this this is not the place for them to stay. I had to sit back and think for a while and understand if this is happening right. Well, I put myself in your shoes and try to figure out what's wrong. I realize that I am feeling very hurt because this person next to me in my job is not fair towards me. He doesn't even understand what I have been thinking. He is always criticizing on my every move and never wants to be with me. Well, what am I supposed to do now?? Should I quit from my work?? Should I not come back just because someone is not appreciating and understanding my thoughts. Am I working day in and day out just because of him?? No!!! Why should I go away just for someone who has never been understanding towards me. I have so many others in the office who care for me and show respect to me.. Is it not fair for me to stay with those and talk with people who like me so much and keep those people away who will never match with me. Well, they had never been close to me to begin with. So, why go away from my work just because of one person. The best part to deal with this situation will be to not respond to any of his comments and be normal. He will try to provoke me because that's how it has been all this time. he doesn’t even deserve to get my attention.

I have made these lines in a very general term. I want you guys to understand what I needed to mention here. I am not supporting or standing against one single person. I am just trying to present a situation and this will be my first reaction to a problematic situation. Each of you know yourself. It’s very easy to show fingers and criticize the other person who was never liked. But to me, I believe that a person will come out as a better individual only when he understands and analyzes every situation very rationally. When you have become popular, critics will follow you and for most of the time, it will be not what you expected. Deal with it and stand as a successful person in every phase of life. I take it as a chance to grow in a matured way without showing any emotional outburst.

Mike

Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2007 6:28 pm Subject:

Mike..Thank you. You said it so well. I was shocked and upset to hear about what was going on today. I am here to support everyone, and to help any way I can. I am always here, just a pm away.

Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2007 6:29 pm Subject:

Im not sure what happend today, but I trust and respect you Mike in every way. Im here for you.

Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2007 6:48 pm Subject: r

I also am here to support everyone. If there is anything I can do to help, I am here. Anyone can just ask, as fins posted. We are here.

Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2007 6:48 pm Subject:

Luke I know you are always with me. And I thank you for being so nice to others as well. You will always show up as a nice and dear person to your friends. I have seen the depth in your words when you feel thankful to some unknown person for the help s/he did to you. At this moment, if someone asks for your support, just give it freely. Smile

You will never know how much it means to the other person. And you will feel special.

Fins, you are a great person. People who talk with you know what a nice person you are!!! I can't even imagine for a second that you are not here for few days. You will be deeply missed if that happens unfortunately. Everyone here have made a few friends and it’s important that we all stay together.

Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2007 6:53 pm Subject:

Thank you Mike, your very kind.

Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2007 6:57 pm Subject:

Oh Mike...I'm not going anywhere!! You know I couldn't leave this place ever! I'm here to give back what I got here 2 years ago.
Plus the friends I have here..I have made some personal friends and had a ton of fun!!
You are the greatest.

Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2007 8:15 pm Subject:

I don't have much time to post on here these days but I am always here for everyone. I love all of you and miss you!!! Mike, this was a wonderful thread. Thanks for starting it. Smile

Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2007 9:05 pm Subject:

I've met with some obsticals here, most recently definatly, but that isn't going to drive me away.

Mike, you do a lot for this community. You are the glue!

Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 4:47 am Subject:

FYI you are so right...Mike holds us all together and where would we be without him? I don't know what happened either but I support everyone who takes the time to post here in trying to help others. Most all of us have been on the other end of that at a trying time in our lives..how can we ever forget that. I have made friends here too that I look for every time I post if just to see what they are saying and learn as much as I can. I learned a long time ago you can't please everyone but if you stay true to your heart, you can't go wrong.

Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 5:56 am Subject:

I haven't been on much lately, and I probably won't be on much in the near future. Things are incredibly crazy for me right now, and my time on the computer is very limited. I try to sign in and check messages, but replying to posts right now is something I can't keep up with. Looks like everyone has filled in where I was posting anyway, so I'm sure it's not a big deal.

Whatever is going on here, we've weathered these sort of storms before. Those who have been here for a year or so will know what I mean. We've had some pretty bad situations come up, and when those happen, we always manage to stick together and get through it. And we'll do it again. Very Happy

Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 6:16 am Subject:

Mike once again ur words ring so true to my ears! (or my eyes in this case) Thanks for all u do to hold this place together, it is greatly appreciated.
I think this forum is big enough for all of us to post on.... Everyone has something to offer here, whether it be knowledge or just support for others going thru desparate times. I know when i first came here sometimes just the words of encouragement were what i needed to hear. (and the knowledge NEVER hurt)
I think everything will work out, life has a way of working out and everything once again will be good here!
Very Happy

Ang

Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 6:41 am Subject:

Mike I am not a mod, debt sam..or hall of famer...but I wanted to post to let you know...I agree with you.
Things that happen in life are challenging..but sometimes they do just make us stronger. I don't know what happened here...however I have received good sound advice and help with my debts and it's been a great relief. Keep up the good work!

Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 6:55 am Subject:

coexist

intr.v. co·ex·ist·ed, co·ex·ist·ing, co·ex·ists
1. To exist together, at the same time, or in the same place.
2. To live in peace with another or others despite differences, especially as a matter of policy

Every person who sacrifices a piece of their day to log in to this community in an effort to assist perfect strangers is cherished and very special.

As with any exchange, humans do not see eye to eye at all times, but we are on a planet where we must coexist with one another or disasters occur. Our slice of the planet that this community offers is no different.

Despite the differences that we share in opinions, debt is what brings every person here.

Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 7:00 am Subject:

Gee Mike, who would have thought Jason was so hard to work with? J/K

Your words are so true, and heartfelt! So many times in my life I have encountered people who are just naturally condescending, it seems that's all they know how to do is ridicule everything. Maybe those people are not happy with themselves, and therefore cannot stand to see other people happy either. "Misery loves company."

Whatever the reason may be, my personal adage has always been to 'kill them with kindness.' Granted sometimes I can't always do that. But I do find if you don't feed into this person's cynicism, it riles them up to a point where they can't take it and they move on to their next target. In other words, these people are looking to pick a fight, and if you don't give it to them they leave. It is easy to enter into a name-calling match with this person, but sometimes you have to be the better person and walk away.

I think I have gotten off on the bad foot with a few posters here, just because I tend to be straightforward and I don't sugarcoat things. A lot of people don't like that because they think I am personally attacking them, and so they come off on the offensive. I always try to counter with logic instead of sarcasm.

You have always done a good job keeping things together here, Mike, and we all appreciate it. Just don't let malicious posters get to you.

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