Overview:
My husband has PDL with 4 different places two are affliates, he owes out every two weeks approximately 3,600.00. The checks have never made it through the bank because he walks in and pays the accounts. Of course any of you in this boat will understand that he borrows from one to pay the other. First off let me say that I think he has a problem, a huge problem. This to me os no different ( for HIM) thatn somone who has a gambling problem, drug problme, or an alcoholic. It is a problem. He knows it but can't admit it. I don't understand all of it either because he owes out more to them than our biweekly bills are. So the excuse that we needed the money to pay our bills doesn't fly wiht me.
A year and half ago all this came to light for me because so much was going on in our marriage at the time. I couldn't stand him and he couldn't stand me. he was working 40 hours regular each week and 40 hours. He was tired and I was always inquiring why we didn't have any money. I was totally in the dark. We didn;t have duplicate checks and since he didn't let the checks hit our account through the PDL I never saw that eh was doing it.
When i found out I got sick ( literally). No one every thinks that their spouse would lie to them or keep things hidden from them. I am not a high maintence person and I was very well aware that we only had left over each month after bills around 700.00 for groceries, gas, entertainment and we have 4 kids together. So I was not expecting nor did I ever to live high on the hog.
We almost divorced over it. At that time he was only borrowing from three places. I went and did something I never should have done, but I did to help us out. I borrowed on my life insurance policy of 900.00 that I had agreed to pay back. That was 1 year ago and nothing has been paid back to them. I didn's cash out the policy because my grandfather got the policy after I was born in 1975 and still checks on the policy.
So we sat down and talked and he agreed that i would take over the finances. One year later and I have no control over what his paychecks are, how much incoming is coming in and what he has paid and what needs to be paid. I do not work this was an agreement that we came to when i was pregnant 3 years ago. We were doing very well the first year his income was 5,200.00 after taxes each month. But all that changed in 2005, his employer used to pay overtime separate than regular hours and now he wasn;t making as much after combining both on one check. I believe this is when it started, he had come accustomed to a certain lifestyle and wanted to try and keep it that way. Even after that we would still have had enough money and extra for our monthly bills.
So I the other day i got my credit report and thank GOD my credit is not bad at all, his on the other hand isn;t great but not ugly. So I was thinking what is the problem here? Why can't we pay this debt off, I started asking him questions and he would just answer wiht. Don't worry I will take care of it.
So I finally find out yesterday he has 4 PDL out ( not due to paid until next week) and pays interst of 1,600.00 every two weeks in interest. Well son of a that is why we can't pay things off and we are always struggling to have money for neccesities every two weeks.
I have put my marriage on hold right now to try to figure out how to deal with these people so they don't come after me. I really don't care what happens to him right now because I am so angry. I feel like I have bailed him out once if I keep bailing him out he will continue doing this.
So I found out who all the PDL are through. I was surprised anyone gave me information seeing as my name is not on the checks and when they ahve called here in the past to remind him of his appointment they won't disclose any information to me.
I am in Ohio and he owes to Cashland, Checksmart, Advance Amercia, and one of their affiliates National Advance America. ALL STORE FRONTS.
So I got good news from the two AA & NAA. They will let him make payments to them. But Cashland & Checksmart had the suckiest plan for us. They told me to let the checks bounce and NOT pay the loan. Let it go to collections. When I asked why I should do that their answer was they cannot make payment arrangments in the office. So i called Corporate and explained the situation. Their answer was let the checks bounce as well and let it go to collections. I told them that was a stupid thing to do because I would be in more debt than I was now. I would incurr the bank fees, and I think my bank will not close an account until all outstanding checks come through the bank. NOt to mention that my bank charges fees per day that the account is overdrawn.
I talked to an attorney yesterday who does bankruptcy and she gave me the same advice and said we needed to file Chapter 7. I don't want to do this because as I said my credit is good and my husband's credit isn't great but it isn't ugly either.
I really need some advice here.....