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Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 2:09 pm Subject: I need a cyber hug bad

Oh, I had a ROTTEN day today!!

I got into an argument with a supervisor..(Not my boss) at work, it got pretty ugly..He was in my face pointing and yelling in front of a LOT of people, and I lost it..I started to cry!!

I'm the HR person, for crying out loud, I'm supposed to be the tough one..And I lost my freakin' composure in front of a bunch of people because a mean little man with short-man syndrome called me uncooperative and said I didn't listen..He then said I only had my job because I filled a quota. I am so humiliated..It was awful, this is a professional environment..

I'm ok now, I just needed to vent, and I need a hug.

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 2:16 pm Subject:

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 2:24 pm Subject:

thank you!!!

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 2:24 pm Subject:

That's the sad part when you are working under someone.

Don't take it to heart deeply, fins. It happens at work all the time. The seniors will often bully the juniors because they have some powers with them. You just have to have a hard skin when you work under someone.

People are paid for the work they do. Your supervisor should have been professional enough to take you into another room and show the point. Communication is important in order to make things right. But that should be done in a fair way, not by causing insult to others.

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 2:26 pm Subject:

thanks Wealth..

The thing is..He wasn't MY supervisor..Technically, I am above him in rank.

Guest · Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 2:27 pm Subject:

cant you talk to your boss about this? Im so sorry this happened to you!

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 2:32 pm Subject:

Very sad! I know how you are feeling. You should have shown him your seniority and put him in the right. Being silent just gave him enough space and throw more on you.

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 2:34 pm Subject:

Aww, Fins. What a creep! There was definitely a more tactful way of handling the situation. And if he wasn't even your supervisor, what business did he have saying anything to you? I would definitely talk to your supervisor about this. I think this guy owes you an apology.

As far as losing your cool, I can empathize with that. I had one co-worker who thought she was the boss. I worked with her for five years, and one day, I just had enough. I told her off and, because I was so mad, I started crying (something I hate about my temper - I cry when I get really mad!).

CYBER HUG!!!

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 2:34 pm Subject:

I know, I acted like a big baby..Luckily I was able to get to the restroom before I really started to cry too bad.

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 2:35 pm Subject:

I am a huge crybaby when I get mad..

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 2:40 pm Subject:

I'm glad I'm not the only one!

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 2:41 pm Subject:

Just be very business-like when you go back to work tomorrow and, after a week or so, they will have forgotten. That's how I handled it when it happened to me.

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 2:44 pm Subject:

Finsfan... Here is your hug Wink

I have dealt with LMS in the past and they alway are trying to prove something.

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 3:13 pm Subject:

here's a huge Hug MMMMMMMMM. (that's the kind I give the kids when they are upset). Now if you are the HR director and his position is below you (no pun intended) and he treated you this way - how does he treat the ppl who are under him? I am not sure that his behavior is condusive to a congenial work environment and it very well could fall into on of the harrassment areas.

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 4:21 pm Subject:

Michele, I'm sorry for your bad day Crying or Very sad

Don't worry about crying, shows you're human!1 I cry when I get mad too!! That makes me mad, cause then I can't get out what I want to say..BIG HUG..Love ya girlie!..Karen