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thanks2all · Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 2:30 am Subject: Does debt affects love life?

Does this debt affects your love life too? One of my friend; she always worries about debt and creditors; I think it has started affecting her love life too.

Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 4:24 am Subject:

I think the stress of debt affects it. I mean if you think about it, it keeps you up at night, puts knots in your stomach. I would say yes defineatly it could affect your love life, it affects marriages every day.

Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 4:30 am Subject:

You should put a poll question on this webpage, bet you get a lot of yes answers. You should see if they would let you put one on.

Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 6:01 am Subject:

I'd say yes it can. Its all about the stress...the stress over the calls, the stress over 'how am I going to get money', the stress of 'what are they going to do to me'. It can wear you down & even make you ill.

Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 6:06 am Subject:

Oh my yes, it did for us anyway. My husband and I before we were even engaged were facing my bad mistakes. He is a wonderful man who is very patient and understanding and sometimes, for me, that made things worse. I wanted him to be mad at me, and granted he wasn't happy at the situation, he wasn't upset with me. He didn't let it affect our relationship, but I did. Whenever I would get a call from a CA I would just cry and cry and my depression would worsen. Now multiply that 5 times a day at least. Thing is I needed someone to be strong for me, I just didn't realize it. Now that we're married, he agreed to pay off my final $3400 to my credit counseling company before we had our first child. It is wonderful to have that kind of support. I still have bad debts but no where near as bad as they were. So, I think that debt not only affects your love life, but life in general. This forum is so powerful because it can bring you to people who understand and truly care when you can't find support anywhere else!

sophi · Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 6:37 am Subject:

I think that it will affect our life. You know that the rich means another word abundence. Abundance means security. We have security when we no longer have to worry how we will get the money for our basic needs and wants. We have security when our life is not dependent upon having and keeping a job - especially not a job we dread going to every day. We have security when there is more than enough money to take care of us, now and in the future. We have security when we know that our children will not have to live in impoverished neighborhoods and be exposed to bad influences. It is not wrong to want to have money. It is not wrong to want to marry someone who handles his or her money prudently. That is i quote from a friend at millionairematch.com.

Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 9:55 am Subject:

One of the leading causes of divorce is money.

Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 9:59 am Subject:

If I hadn't gotten control of my payday loans when I did, I would have lost everything, my marriage included because of getting myself into such a mess.

Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 10:14 am Subject:

Sass, Isn't it amazing how these payday loans impact every aspect of our lives. If we only knew then what we know now, boy things would be different.

Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 10:29 am Subject:

That's the truth kash! I can't think of any part of my life that they didn't affect! Work, home, school, etc...it all suffered because of the mess that I was in.

Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 10:33 am Subject:

Still not everyone knows about this very secret part of my life. The lies I have told!!!!

Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 11:03 am Subject:

I hear ya!! Some things not everyone NEEDS to know, either!!

Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 3:25 pm Subject:

Debt DEFINITELY affects your love life. There are men who have asked me out that I have hesitated to get involved with because of my financial situation (was bad at the time - is starting to get a little better now, but still not great) - I was ashamed and didn't want to tell them about it if we got involved seriously - to the point where it would become an issue.

Thankfully, I have met a man who is very non-judgemental on this issue. He's been through some hard times himself, so he understands that sometimes you have to do whatever is necessary to keep the boat afloat!

Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 3:36 pm Subject:

Sue, I know that feeling exactly. Debt should not be a shameful thung, but it feels like it is. I also have kept my financial situation a secret.You are so lucky to have met someone who understands. Not every ne does.

Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 4:27 pm Subject:

Oh what debt has taught me, it is that life is more important than debt, and debt itself can suck it right out of you if you let it.

Posted: Sat Oct 13, 2007 5:28 pm Subject:

oh god yes, debt can affect your love life. all that worrying, who can think about love? one the main reasons for both of my divorces was about money. my last husband was only concern about what i can do for him. not what we can do for each other. now he is married to a woman who has some money and a good job, nice home, but he don't really love her, just the material things that she has. my thing is when you both get thing together by going without and make sacrifices you will appreciate each other and what you got? (did i get off the subject?)

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