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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 10:30 pm

I got a phone call this morning informing me that a very dear family member has passed away. This is my husbands second cousin, but with the age difference between us she was like a mother to me and a grandmother to my daughter (since my mom passed away in 2001) This lady had gone through so much but yet gave so much to others. Yes she was ill, but this took us all by suprise. My daughter is crushed once again, so the prayers needed are for her. My daughter would stay there on the weekends when we were up at the cabin and she had to work. She grew very close to this lady and so did I. I had to tell my daughter the news when I got home from work tonight. So she is crying in her room right now. She blames herself, she says that everybody that she cares the most for always dies. And no matter what I said made a difference. I know this is part of the greiving process, but it hurts me sooo much to see her like this. I know this family member is not suffering anymore but I am also saddened by her death. She told me tonight that she doesn't like this time of year anymore, because thats when the people she cares for dies. Since Dec. 2001 she lost her grandmother (my mom) her great grandmother (my grandma) her great grandfather (hubbys grandpa) and now this family member ( all inbetween Thanksgiving and Christmas). So please pray that she starts to understand that it is not her fault and that she will get through this with the understanding that it is Gods will and it was their time to join the lord and not just this time of year. Sorry for rambling on Embarassed

I am just so upset. SO if you don't see me here for a couple of days you know where I am.
Thanks for being here for me Community Hug

Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 10:49 pm

I'm sorry to hear this. I'm not a big fan of this time of year. My gramma died on Christmas Eve. Crying or Very sad

I also went through a time where I felt responsible for my loved ones dying. It's a terrible feeling. I lost 13 people in 1 year. I pretty much lived at the funeral home.

I will be thinking about you, and if you need anything, let me know.

Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 10:53 pm

Puddle-You have my thoughts and prayers. My best to you and your family during this tough time. Sad

Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 11:41 pm

Oh puddle I am so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family. If you need anything just ask.

Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 4:25 am

I am so sorry Puddle....I went through a similar thing with my daughter at about that same age. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 4:38 am

Would that I had the words to ease your pain, even a little. We will hold your daughter [and you!] in our thoughts this season. May God grant you peace, in time.

Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 5:23 am

Puddle, I am so very sorry for your loss. In time, with lots of love, you daughter will come to realize that none of this is her fault. You are in my thoughts, and if you need anything , please just ask.
Kash

Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 8:35 am

DANIELLE IS A VERY SAD TIME AND I THINK I HAVE NO WORDS TO DESCRIBE IT.
I'M VERY SORRY FOR A PERSON SO WONDERFUL HAVE TO LEAVE
EARTH NOW AND WENT TO PARADISE NOW.
A FAMILY MEMBER THAT ALWAYS GIVE LOVE TO US AND OTHERS IS SO ESPECIAL THAT YOU WILL NEVER FORGET THEM.
I ASK GOD TO VISIT YOU HOME AND GIVE YOUR DAUGHTER CONFORMITY WITH THIS BIG LOST OF A LADY SO IMPORTANT
IN YOUR DAUGHTER'S LIFE AND IN THE LIFE OF ALL YOUR FAMILY.
JESSI I'M SO SORRY THAT YOU LOST 11 PERSONS OF YOUR FAMILY IN ONE(1)YEAR AND I WILL SAID THE SOMETHING
FOR YOU EITHER.
THE SIZE OF LOVE OF EACH PERSON YOU CANNOT MEASURED
AND I KNOW HOW IS HARD TO LOSE GREAT PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD.
IT IS LIKE A VERY LONG TRIP THEY WENT FAR FROM US.
WHEN I DID NOT SEE MY FATHER ANYMORE AND OTHER PEOPLE THAT I LOVE SO MUCH AND I UNDERSTAND THEY ARE NOT HERE NO MORE AND I CANNOT BRING THEM TO THIS EARTH EITHER.
I REMEMBERED MY FATHER WHEN HE WAS DYING AND HE IS TELLING US HIS FATHER,MOTHER AND SISTER WAS NEAR HERE HIM TO BED.
MY FATHER NEVER SAW NOTHING IN HIS LIFE AND HE DID NOT BELIEVE HE CAN SEE ANYTHING IN HIS LIFE.
PEOPLE SAID HE WAS NOT WELL AND HE WAS IMAGINING THINGS AND ME,MY MOTHER BELIEVED THAT THEY CAME
TO HELP HIM TO UNDERSTAND DEATH.
GOD IS A GOD OF LOVE AND I BELIEVE ONE DAY I WILL
SEE MY FATHER AND ALL PEOPLE I LOVE SO MUCH AGAIN.

Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 9:03 am

JESSI I SAID 11 PEOPLE AND YOU LOST 13 PEOPLE IN ONE
YEAR.I'M VERY SORRY FRIEND AND YOU ARE A VERY STRONG GIRL AND I KNOW HOW STRONG YOU HAVE TO BE IN THIS YEAR.
THE ONLY THING I CAN SAY TO ALL MY FRIENDS IS PRAY TO GOD AND ONLY GOD HAVE POWER TO HELP US AND ONLY GOD HELP ALL GREAT PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD.
IT IS NOT HOPE FOR BAD PEOPLE IN ANOTHER WORLD(PARADISE)BECAUSE PEOPLE BAD ALWAYS ARE DOING WRONG THINGS AGAIN AND AGAIN AND I DO NOT BELIEVE GOD WILL FORGIVE THEM ALWAYS.
GOD FORGIVE THE THIEF,THE PROSTITUTE BECAUSE
THE THIEF WAS DYING AND THE PROSTITUTE MADALENA BECAME A HONEST AND A SAINT WOMAN.
I'M SURE GOD WILL NEVER FORGIVE PEOPLE KILLING INNOCENT PEOPLE OR ABUSING AND KILLING INNOCENT CHILDREN.
I'M SURE GOD DID NOT APPROVED PEOPLE STEALING
AND ABUSING DISABILITY PEOPLE EITHER.
ALL FANTASTIC PEOPLE WILL BE HONORED BESIDES GOD.
ALL FANTASTIC MEMBERS OF THIS FORUM,FANTASTIC GUESTS
AND ALL FANTASTIC PEOPLE IN THESE WORLD WILL BE
NEAR GOD ALWAYS.
AMEN

rose

Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 9:11 am

Puddle- I am so sorry, you and your family will be in my prayers. I had a similiar situation with my sons-within 5 years, all of our family members on both sides dies, except for one aunt and 2 cousins- my sons were very angry for a while. My dad died on Easter sunday, and most of them within April through May. Hang in there- we are all here for you,please let me know if I can help or just to talk!..karen Community Hug

Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 9:13 am

ABOUT THE THIEF THAT DIES NEAR THE CROSS OF JESUS
AND HE TOLD JESUS HE FELT VERY BAD TO STEAL MONEY FROM PEOPLE.
I DO NOT KNOW WHAT HAPPENED THIS DAY BUT I KNOW GOD FORGIVE THE THIEF BECAUSE HE SAW ANYTHING GOOD ON HIM.
ONLY GOD CAN SEE INSIDE US AND ONLY GOD KNOWS ALL OUR SECRETS.

Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 9:42 am

i am so sorry for your loss. allow yourself and your daughter to grieve and assure her that this is not her fault. this december, my little nephew would have been 5. he died in an drowning accident around a year and half ago. his father blamed my nephew's mother for a long time because she let someone else babysit him while she worked. but in time he realized that it was just the baby's time to go. he is really missed, but even though he was just 3, he brought so much joy in our lives. instead of crying when we talk about him, we laugh. it took time. i remember the day of his funeral, as we were enter the church, it was cloudy and very gloomy. but as we were marching out, the sun came out so bright, we had to put shades on Laughing

as we were leaving the burial, it started raining so hard and my daughter said, oh my god momma, he has gotten up in heaven and turned the water on!! Laughing

Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 9:45 am

Puddle, My hearts aches for both you and your daughter. To loose a loved one is difficult enough but to loose so many at the same time of year in the holidays when so much celebrating is going on is imensely difficult and only magnifies the loss. I konw as a mom you want so much to make this better for her and take away the pain...but you know in your heart she will heal in time and as many of us have had to do, work our way through the grieving process. I know it is doubly difficult for you becuase you in pain for your loss as well has hers. I will add you and your family to our prayer list at church and say and extra prayer for you. God bless.

Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 9:46 am

Granny-how cute! Isn't it amazing how God gives us the signs that it's going to be ok, and that he is here--karen

Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 9:49 am

Thank you all so much for your kind words. You really don't know how much that means to me. You all hold a special place in my heart rose

Granny thank you for sharing your story I got a laugh from what your daughter said to you Laughing

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