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Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 4:44 am Subject: child support

If my Ex would just pay me the $20000.00 he owes me I wouldn't be in this mess. But you can't pay if you don't work. This morning I woke up thinking "I'm going to put the hurt on him a little", Let him get a taste of what i'm going thru...

Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 5:28 am Subject:

candiceann - you need to take this matter to an attorney that handles child support evasion. If your ex is able to work, has no physical or mental impairments that keep him from working some sort of job, then your attorney should be able to take action that will push him into getting a job and paying the support required. Don't try to handle this on your own.

Best of luck to you! Very Happy

Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 6:04 am Subject:

Candiceann - what state do you live in? Do you have a court order for your child support? If you do go right to the child support department and have them work on your behalf. Some state will put the fool in jail until they pay some will pull their drivers' liscence. My idiot owes me over 20k and the county that I live in really is not as agressive as it can be by law, but I just keep after them and I bug my caseworker. I have had 15 caseworkers in the last 15 years, some good some bad, the worst one told me that I would be receiving child support when he retires! Also my idiot does not file taxes - which would be sent to me by the irs. Make sure that your caseworker has your fools' taxes flagged - this could help.

Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 6:07 am Subject:

I agree you need to take steps to collect.. one thing I thank my lucky stars My ex NEVER missed a payment.. as a matter of fact the day I got the ammount he had to pay he handed me a check for 6 months Child support and my alimony.. I continued to collect Child Support but never asked for another penny for alimony.. if he could help me out by giving me the 6 months I could be a stand up person and not collect alimony.. BUT his child was his child and for that I needed help.. I was very lucky.

Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 6:07 am Subject:

Candice - IL hits dead beat dads pretty hard - Lisa Madigan has always gone after them.

Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 6:35 am Subject:

From what I've seen, it's best if they send their support checks directly to the state and the state then pays you. This way, emotion is taken out of the picture and the child does come first, right?

Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 4:51 pm Subject: child support

we were divorced in indiana, i live in illinois & he lives in texas....i can have him put in jail but then i'll never get paid, he is a truck driver by trade and i would hate to have his liscense suspended, because once again i'll never get paid.

Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 4:56 pm Subject:

you are very nice.. He gets to run around doing as he pleases while you get to figure out where the next dollar is going to come from to feed your kids.. They have a work release program.. Dad's that dont pay child support get to work all day to get caught up and sleep in the jail at night and on their days off.. after a short time they get out and most will pay from that point on..
I am sorry but I really believe that Dad's or Mom's that are not the custorian parent have to contribute to raise the kids.. and frankly not just with $$$ they need to be around for the kids..

Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 4:59 pm Subject:

Candice--

I know what you are going through. My daughter's father has a court order to pay child support and he still only pays when he feels like it. He has had his driver's license suspended and the only way he got them back was to pay all the arrears, plus one month in advance. Once they have been suspended one time already, the child support agency does not have to warn him that his license are about to be suspended. They can just log into the system and suspend them and then the BMV will send a letter stated that his driving privileges have been revoked. He even had the nerve to still drive when they were suspended b/c I seen his dumba$$.

Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 5:13 pm Subject:

Candiceann! Turn him over to the State of Indiana, get it over with. Throw him in jail? Nay, we'd have to foot the bill for him unless Texas shipped his butt back to Iniana. However if you let the State handle it, you got your support regardless. I PAID child support, provided insurance & alimony though I never figured out why! she was the one that missed her teenaged yrs, not me and....I worked two jobs to do it!

Maybe I'm one of kind......shesh!

Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 5:21 pm Subject: child support

texas, what do you mean? you paid her support but raised your children?

not so sure he cares if he goes to jail, but, my children would hate me for putting there father in jail.

Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 5:33 pm Subject:

I paid child support, four yrs worth, also paid her a year & a half of alimony....paid for medical, dental & vision for the whole damn crew....worked a full time job (it paid for all that) & chased down bad boys & girls at night & on weekends to cover my living expenses.

Hand his butt over to the State, let them worry about whether he's working or not, anything else he does or tries to do, the IRS will levy his refunds.

Your children will have financial support their entitled to & you baby will have a lot less stress in your life. And? If he goes to jail he'll have to work anyway unless the ACLU has turned prisons into playgrounds, he'll have a cot & three hots, medical, dental, yada...

Sorry, I can't stand a man that sires children then decides, "I a'int paying that *%$#* a dime" ! Where's muh hoss & rope.........

*chuckle*

Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 5:40 pm Subject:

Texas,
I KNEW there was a reason I liked you... Laughing

If more men decided that the kids didn't get there by themselves and it does take two to tango, then there WOULD be a lot less stress in the world.
I think my husband was probably a better parent than I was when my girls were little--and they have grown up more adjusted for having the love and support of their father and mother as a result.

Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 5:48 pm Subject:

There is such a thing as child support? I've never seen a dime of child support.

Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 6:02 pm Subject:

Then......you betta haul that lawyer's buns into court and sue the be jesus outta him/her for malfesance, deriliction of duty, yank that diploma off their wall, stuff it up sideways & I mean do it hard up his/her tail yada yada.........oops!

*chuckle*

Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 6:20 pm Subject:

thanks ks........LOL

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