traci, BOA will settle for 30 to 40% of the balance once you are 5 months behind. Of course, this will wreck your credit, but if you can't pay, you can't pay.
Can you come up with $7 to $9k cash in the next 5 months and pay a lump sum to them as settlement?
They also have a hardship program where they will reduce your interest rate and sometimes your payment, but they won't offer this to you until you are 30 or 60 days late or longer.
Everyone here is in your situation, so read as much on these forums as you can.