My soon to be ex husband has recieved SSI since he was a kid. Of course, everyone in his family lives off the system too. He hardly worked the entire time that we were married and doesn't work now either. Since he left my home, he lives off of people. Staying a couple night at this persons house and a couple nights at that persons house. So he has no bills. He sits back and collects his SSI (which he shouldn't even get anyway because he is perfectly capable of working) says that he can't afford to pay me child support but is currently in Carolina with his girlfriend (who also doesn't work) taking a "vacation" (from what, I don't know) basically on my daughter's money. I was going to ask the judge at finally hearing to garnish his SSI. Now that I am researching it and finding out that SSI cannot be garnished for some stupid reason, I am literally sick to my stomach.

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I am sorry to hear that. In our situation, the ex can take a baseball bat to his neighbors,steal, do drugs,buy his drug buddy a car--but can't even pay something from his back pay to help his kids. He also lives with his parents, who know he smokes dope in their house--something is wrong with this system!

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can't you turn him in for illegal drug use? That would be the first step in the long process of righting all the wrongs?

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Yeah you could, just have to know exactly when he is sitting there doing it. He got some more back pay and now he has taken his mom and step dad on a vacation to CAlifornia :shock: he still hasn't paid the thousand bucks that he said he would out of his back pay--he can be held in contempt, but my daughter-in-law was told she has to come up with the money to file. She was told she gets his stimulous check, but it will be another 90 days to process it--it all stinks!

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MY EX HUSBAND HAS ALWAYS BEEN A LOSER. HAS MOVED ABOUT OVER THE YEARS. FILED FOR SSI. OWES HIS CHILDREN
$47000 IN BACK CHILD SUPPORT. DO I HAVE ANY RECOURSE

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bossy I am sorry! that is so terrible especially since you have a background job in substance abuse-to find it happening to you and your own family now-what you counseled people on a daily basis about-I know you can take your education and knowledge and apply it to this situation where you will prevail! good luck girl!

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Thanks guest- but don't think my education is going to help him get off drugs-he sure isn't going to come to me to get help! People like him ,who don't take care of their children, will pay for it in the long run. As their childern get older,they will understand who takes care of them and who doesn't, and he will end up loosing in the end.

To the other guest--contact your case worker about your case. If he is getting SSI and not SSDI, you cannot get help from him. The only thing you can probably get is his stimulous check, but htat has to be done through the Child Support division--chcek w/ your worker to make sure though,it may vary where you live..good luck..karen

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If these men are able to lay in bed and make a child, then they should be able to support one! I say make them go to work on the side, perhaps in a sheltered work shop and send the money to the kids. The state should check on them and make sure they are really severely disabled. If they are able to work at all they should be forced to pay.

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I agree but the saddest part is that the women who lay in bed with these losers continue to have more and more children from the same loser---they may even be drug abusers too but the minute the other party is called names--the drug abuse comes out---most of the time when women have children and are in a long term relationship with drug abusers they are well aware of the character of the individual they chose to procreate with and are often times in need of counseling themselves and sadly----these children are the sad sad result of these type of relationships---so many grandparents are raising these children today--this crap needs to stop! Wake up! Mothers educate your daughters...I know we do all we can---but do your best to keep them away from these losers--because they are caught up in the trap and become as bad as the men they chose to lay in bed with!!!! They all abuse the system eventually and the poor children are the ones left at risk and this is so very very sad!

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p.s. bossy--your education and experience of course can't get him off drugs but couldn't it have helped prevent your relative from being involved with this person? And all of your knowledge in this field that you should have certainly passed on to family members but it didn't CATCH ON or hit home or mean ANYTHING ---for some reason or another--after all your years of counseling drug abusers---to me is very very sad that this same thing occured in your own world! That is what I was trying to say--not that you should have kept him off drugs!

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WOW i AGREE!!! Bossy you are so smart and so looked up to here with your opinion/did your relative lie in bed over and over again with bad peoples after knowing they were bad peoples and did your relative participate in the same actions you accuse her partner of doing? If not surely she is not retarded and was fully aware if more than one child as to the actions of her mate? Can you enlighten us here or has the discussion been closed? Thanks in advance because prior to this I have really valued your opinions! :-) and I wish you the best but am questioning your post and common sense in this situation as a former drug counselor? sorry for questioning anything you have to say because I really value your opinions only question what you have posted here and realize you may have been asleep at the wheel?

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Posted: Tue Feb 10, 2009 9:32 am Subject: SSI and Child Support --No Garnishment in some cases

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"Maybe everyone else knows this, but I didn't. I always thought that the Government could garnish disability for child support, but I found out different yesterday.

My daughter-in-law and I "---

op said daugther in law-----Bossy is this your son that you posted about ??????????soooooo sad

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I am not reall sure why you fiond it necessary to attack me or my family--but I won't delete your psots so it cannot be said I delete things I don't like. As far as my profession-substance abuse hits all walks of life--it would be like saying to the Preacher--why did your son/daughter get in trouble since you are a preacher?

My son married a girl he had been dating for over 3 years--she had been married almost 6 years to her husband(the one I am talking about).

I am not going to argue the point of hwether she should have been married and had kids, whether my son should have married her or whether I did-didn't raise my kid right.

I just wanted to say originally that child support cannot be garnished in alot of cases if the spouse is on SSI, like I thought--it is only on SSDI,in alot of cases.

Guest, if you want to--pm me and we can discuss my merits of being a counselor or anything else you want--let's keep this in pms, so others can use this space to get help,ok?..karen

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HI I am a new guest but the above post is a freakin puzzle...bossy you stated..
My son married a girl he had been dating for over 3 years--she had been married almost 6 years to her husband(the one I am talking about).

"I am not going to argue the point of hwether she should have been married and had kids, whether my son should have married her or whether I did-didn't raise my kid right. "

I am not gonna argue this either..the topic was one you posted about the "dead head" and I think above posts tried to make reference to the person who laid in bed with this loser and had multiple children from this loser..most likely had the same bad character and same bad drug addictions as the person they had mutiple children with! Very valid point! I think that child support is indeed garnished if the spouse is not a druggie or as bad a parent as the one they are making accusations at? That is all I was trying to say...if you man up or fess up in court the truth will prevail and if you are as bad as the Evilness you make accusations at....you will fall deeper into the hole than the ones you cast the first stone at...Karen...you knew what was going on BEFORE it became a problem? And if you didn't..you weren't worth a grain of salt as a counselor in this field is what above post eluided to I thinks?

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you know what i think guest.the unwarranted attacks on bossy are gonna stop or else.btw nice grammar,and usage.you are one to talk.

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Hey Guys- I live in Ohio & just started receiving S.S.I. I also owe my X money for child support. My kid's are grown, but my debt still stands. So can my check be attached here in Ohio?

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