Date: Wed, 08/20/2008 11:46
I'm so sad right now.
I've been with my BF for over 5 years which I know is a long time. We definitely had our ups and downs like all couples do. But lately, I just really feel like something is "off".
My BF has 2 kids from his previous relationship. They're great kids and I get along with them well.
I always swore (before him) that I would never date anyone with kids because I couldn't deal with the baggage (this was when I was younger and less mature). With my current BF, I made the exception because he is a really nice guy and we got along well.
Well, to make a long story short, his ex took his kids to North Carolina last year, where she purchased a home. We're in NYC. He now feels as if he wants to be near them, meaning moving to NC. He asked me if I would be willing to do so. I told him no, because I have my family (most importantly, my grandmother, who is 86, and just lost her husband), my friends, my job, etc. I didn't feel it was fair to expect me to uproot my life and just go.
Not to mention his constant financial problems. He's a hard worker, but always struggling to make ends meet. It's been this way always. He complains about it all the time, but as I told him, I have yet to see him actually "do" anything about it.
I'm so distraught because we've been together for so long and now it means starting all over. I told him there's no way I could do a long distance thing, it's just not me. I know his kids are a priority over me, but I guess it's just settling in now.
Thanks for listening, and any advice would be appreciated.