Pain doesnt last forever.

I agree 100%, and I have a pretty good idea why you're posting this.

Nothing is forever, and I think a person can get past anything...Things get forgotten, and soon they don't matter anymore.

A 24 hour cooling period is always important.

AMEN.

I am only replying to debt related posts now, after feeling like I can't get a clear picture of who represents what and who is connected to what. I will not attempt to enter any more conversations that do not relate directly to someone's debt issue. I will, however, continue to try to keep the peace when I see a guest entering the forum and attacking someone else - and I will continue to do it in the manner I have been all along - by kindly requesting that they follow the rules of the forum.

It's just a matter of time!!

This is one rough moment in life we lose something very valuable. Anything is lost on a wrong decision and a weak moment.. friends, family, relationship, anything.. We should have control on it. This is the real life.

This is just a forum, but in some way, this is also a family.. and we want to make someone happy who is feeling sad at this moment. I hope our messages are read.

You're right, Building Wealth, this is a family. I have been here a long time, and solved my debt problems...Not because of the site, but because of the people here. I am now in a great position, and I am forever thankful to the people who put me there. I would still be in PDL hell if not for them.

We've been through rough times here before, there have been hard feelings in the past. I've seen a lot of anger and hurt. But...Because we ARE a strong community who care about each other, things have always been mended, and then forgotten. And it made us stronger.

So...Anyone who is thinking about making a rash decision, don't do it until you think it through from every angle. What you think is the right move right now may be the wrong one tomorrow.

Again, AMEN.

I think it this way. Many people live in a family. It is not necessary that everyone's thinking will match with each other. Fights happen in every family because of the differences in thoughts. If one is feeling hurt and tells something that is completely because of the present situation never expected, will s/he leave the house for ever? Won't he ever return back? Well, if there is love, s/he will come back. If there was no love, there is no point of feeling that the member ever belonged to the family. I understand what one feels when he is going through such emotions. But I will also say, it is not good to challenge the entire relationship just because this day didn't start good. Life is a mixture of good and bad days. Stock the good and ignore the bad days. They are never to be remembered, just because you love your family

Thank you guys so much. I feel the same way. I'm like SueBe- I kinda quit responding to those who said they represent someething or someone some time ago. Because of the job I do, I am naturally suspicious when people claim to be or do something, until I get the proof. I am here to help others with the experience I ahve learned from this site and the people in it. And yes, I think of all of you as family!God Bless..KAren

I love you guys! :)***hugzies***

This forum got me through my problems, and I'm determined that everyone that comes here gets through their junk too.

And a word on the "past lives" of people...I can bet, with almost 100 percent accuracy that we've ALL done things that were wrong. It's human nature...It's how we live our lives TODAY that matter.

In middle school, I was soooo mean to this girl Sally..Mainly because everyone else was mean to her. It was a jerk thing for me to do. People teased me too..I didn't like it. But 13 year olds don't think so clearly. I put cheese in the hood of her coat so that when she put her hood up she got cheese in her hair. And I laughed when another girl broke Sally's glasses. I still feel awful. But you know, Sally forgave me for it in High School. We became good friends. We still are.

Moral of this story...It doesn't matter what you've done in your life. Today is a new day, and you need to get on with it. Lead by example. If people don't believe you really changed, heck with them anyway. They can be sour on their own. But don't waste your energy being sour back. They're not your problem. And the other side of the equasion--If you don't believe someone is truly changed--Who cares. If they're not personally affecting your life, forget about them. But you should lead by your example as well.

Ok, I'm done playing Dr. Phil for the night...It's been a long one, and I really should be in bed. But I have a ton of energy, and it's either post, or clean the bathroom...I'd rather post. :)

Love you guys.

All of you are right. I would add few more lines here that I read in an article written by an industrialist (I have forgot his name).

???????Don????????t react, but respond???????

When we react, we do what others want us to do and the person in front gets the control over us. However, when we respond, we are still within our own control.

Whenever some situations/persons annoy us, we must be patient and should try to think the reasons behind it. So always respond, never react.

I don't know what went wrong but I can see why this topic is started. Maybe I can add some inputs.

I believe one cannot change the whole world if he is thinking he will be able to do it. I mean, what the heck it matters if someone changes his life or not because of your words. Life is so fast, why should one be bothered about anyone's life and his/her style of living. It is just a personal outburst that one wants to see things right. In my point, it is a collective effort rather than an individual effort. All that matters at the end of the day is to have control on emotions and temptations. Look at the good things in life instead of one bad moment that was painful. Life is challenging, overcome the bad things and live for the good things. No one can predict what will happen in the future, it can be good or bad, but living this day nicely is the hope of a good life. Anyways, it was just a thought, I felt to add when we talk about life.