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Date: Wed, 12/27/2006 - 10:46

Submitted by BEAUTY1217
on Wed, 12/27/2006 - 10:46

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i need help, and i am not getting much response to the same post. my husband and i got into a really ugly fight this weekend and he left. I did not get anything for Christmas from anybody because my birthday and christmas are 7 days apart, my insurance company debits my account for almost 300.00, unexpectedly and my account is now short for other bills that have to be paid. I had money for gas and food but my husband took it out of the house when he left. and i do not know what to do at this point. no family because they disagreed with me getting married in the first place. I am in a 2 bedroom apartment and i have rent, car note insurance, and i make 15.00 an hour. after taxes I CAN NOT DO IT BY MYSELF. I AM 24 YEARS OLD AND ABOUT TO LOSE MY MIND. EVERYTHING CAME FALLING DOWN WITHIN A 48 HOUR PERIOD. I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO.


Ignoring guest, I would like to rebutt what someone said about the mormons pushing religion on you. I'm an ex mormon too. You can't make a blanket statement saying they will in fact push religion on you. It depends on the person. I happen to know several people that aren't mormom, that used their emergency charity, and never got anything pushed on them. If they are doing the job correctly, they won't. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, because I'm sure there are people that do that, but to tell someone not to get help because they might be told about something they don't care about? Any religious charity would do they same . . . . Besides, for some people it's about helping others, not pushing religion. I don't agree at all with their beliefs, but that doesn't mean they don't and can't do some good . . . .


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Submitted by goudah2424 on Thu, 12/28/2006 - 07:10

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Beauty - I have lived most of my adult life on a roller coaster - I have never been out of debt and have always lived pay check to pay check. I have had horrible days - like yours was yesterday - total insanity days where even holding onto the earth by your finger nails is not enough! Some days things just get out of control and then I start to lose sight of what I can grab onto. Then after calming down and taking a deep breath I sometimes - maybe - see that I am not alone and in the quiet, calm I can see thing rationally. One good thing is you never have to have a day like yesterday again - that is a guarentee!! Now - today is a new day with new challenges and new plans - try only to take on one challene at a time - I know that you can do it! Colleen


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Submitted by Colleen H Carrocia on Thu, 12/28/2006 - 07:11

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Good morning. Could someone who is IN CHARGE please tell me why posts are being deleted? In previous threads, it has been said posts are not deleted as a rule with some exceptions. It seems that this site is kind of like AOL now in that it is up the discretion of the powers who have the power to delete. I may be wrong, but I don't think so. Thanks for listening.


lrhall41

Submitted by on Thu, 12/28/2006 - 07:55

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I believe that if you apply to receive help from a religiious charitable organization they are going to at least make an attempt to get you involved in their church on some level. This is to be expected. When they offer help it is for the lost, or the poor or the needy---they are outreach programs. In regard to the Mormons (and other churches)---they don't push anything on you and won't turn away someone in need. Just my opinion--no, I am not Mormon.


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Submitted by Lorri on Thu, 12/28/2006 - 08:31

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I don't think I ever said that they "push" anything on you. I said in essence that it should be expected that if you are asking for something from someone, you should expect that they are going to ask something in return. Simply working at the storehouse will not be sufficient and you WILL find that you are now receiving unexpected visits from people you hardly know who are "checking" on you. Take it or leave it as you desire. Some people need that type of interaction to feel whole. On the other hand, I have been bitten by that particular hand that feed and I will never trust it again. Read my story.


lrhall41

Submitted by on Thu, 12/28/2006 - 09:00

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Guest, I grew up mormon too and have horror stories too . . . . I'm just saying that there are some good people who just want to help. Not every single experience is the same, and to tell someone this will happen if you do this is not helpful. Beleive me, I dislike (putting it kindly) my experiences with the mormon church as much as you do . . . . BTW, where is your story posted? Since you aren't a member I can't just click on your name to find your posts . . . . But where I live I actually know one of the guys that goes out on the "emergency" calls and he doesn't push religion on people . . . . At least where I live most of the people they help they never see or hear from again . . . .


lrhall41

Submitted by goudah2424 on Thu, 12/28/2006 - 10:28

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I'm glad you had time to relax and think things through, SueBee said something to me yesterday that made me realize my problem was probably not as bad as I had worked it out to be in my mind. She said "I would call him, it's like ripping off a band aid, you anticipate it but once it's over with the initial sting is gone and you are relieved." It is true. I hope things work out for you. And I have to say that I am very upset that "guest" has such a negative attitude towards someone elses problems, we all at one time or another have "been the center of attention" here, this is a caring community and we like to respond to the members with positive support when we can. Sometimes just kind words can make you actually stop and breath have a little faith and realize things really will be OK.


lrhall41

Submitted by Pauli'sGirl on Thu, 12/28/2006 - 12:51

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My response to "guest" is this---Churches are in the "business" of bringing or finding lost souls back into the flock. This is why they have outreach programs to help those in need. BUT---(not to start preaching), Jesus commanded his disciples & other believers to go out into the world and spread the Gospel, which is what a church and its ministries do. If someone doesn't want their "kind" of help, then they shouldn't ask for it.


lrhall41

Submitted by Lorri on Thu, 12/28/2006 - 18:45

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I was the "guest" regarding the Mormon church because I was clicking in from my e-mail notices at work and didn't get logged in. I joined the LDS church in Nashville, Tennessee and moved to Utah. You're right, the experience is totally different in what those who are close to the LDS church refer to as the "mission field." My experiences with the LDS church were completely different when I moved to Utah. Based on my husband's lies (after we separated) I got called in for an inquisition-like meeting and got accused of having an affair (not true), but since they wanted to believe it so badly, I told them that I wouldn't participate in their meeting and left. One hour later I was handed papers telling me I was excommunicated.

I am including my story here since in the process of editing it, it got very badly botched. But before I include it, I want you guys to know that I agree that there are good and bad no matter what the sect. Because I am in Utah, I see more people hiding behind their religion to excuse their behaviors and I just wanted to give Beauty a head's up as to what could possibly happen -- and by the way, while the predominant sect is Mormon, I also see it in other sects as well. If you review the post, I also told Beauty to pick and choose for herself. She's in trauma right now and very vulnerable so she's going to cling to what ever comes into her life thinking it's her salvation. In the long run, it could be a turn in the road she might regret.

Hopefully you guys realize that since I live in Salt Lake, I have no option but to interact with Mormons and if I were prejudiced as the direction of some opionions seems to lean, I would be a totally alienated person. My experiences in Utah helped me to open my eyes and to gain insight into people and situations beyond their initial appearance. It's my hope that all of us can have this insight because it makes us able to better analyze not only our situation, but the situations around us and help us to make better decisions. Anyway off the soap box. Here's my story again. Since I'm fairly new, I'll find a way to re-edit the story.

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In 1994, I was a single mother struggling to make
ends meet. I had good job skills but not a good job.
I took on a second job. My neighbors didn't like that
I worked two jobs but I was trying to keep from becoming homeless and pay the bills off. In the end, my 3 children and I became homeless anyway. The next two years of my life were pure hell. The highlight of
that experience was was getting to eat under
the viaduct on Sundays because a ministry came and
fed us pancakes, bacon, sausage and real coffee.
Brian Mitchell wasn't so crazy as to wear a white
robe and kidnap little girls by the name of Elizabeth
at that time, but he was crazy enough to stalk me.
Illegals from Mexico hid drugs in the hubs of my car.
The homeless shelter took my children on a weekend
campout, didn't supervise them and my daughter ended
up with a fractured skull. When we made it to
transitional housing, they put us in the worst part
of the city. It was common for us to hit the floor
when the drive-by shooters drove past our house. They
weren't shooting at us specifically, they were just
shooting in random. My mother came down with
pancreatic cancer and died and I couldn't even attend
the funeral. And, there was an attempted kidnap on my
daughter. Somehow we made it out and we rejoined the
rest of the fish swimming upstream in that march we
call life. And here I am today, finally learning the
lesson I should have learned 10 years ago. It wasn't just a poor job or neighbors that didn't like me that
caused me to become homeless. ... It was also my lack of education on how to handle money and make it work for me. This year was my wakeup call. I am getting out of the cycle of debt because this is the legacy I will leave my kids. Knowledge of how to do it better -- do it the right way. Anyone want to join me?


lrhall41

Submitted by DebtFairy on Thu, 12/28/2006 - 21:34

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Is this a religious help website, a BEAUTY help website or is the is debt help website? This thread is so all over the place that it is hard to tell. Don't you have a place somewhere on this website where you can put stuff like this(I think it is called the pub). That way us who are in debt and really looking for help don't have to read through unrealted personal stuff to get what we are looking for. And plese don't tell me not to read it if it bothers me, this is under the heading of "debt consolidation" Thank you for listening. Oh and also, thank you for all the help I have recieved here.


lrhall41

Submitted by on Fri, 12/29/2006 - 06:13

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Guest I second that one. Beauty get a life and start posting something that is useful.


lrhall41

Submitted by on Fri, 12/29/2006 - 10:37

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Good Morning & guest---No, this is not a site for religious "help" or a site devoted to just one person. This particular thread did get off track as the forum members were reaching out to others in need. And yes, sometimes that might mean offering one person a little more "help" than others or even offering spiritual guidance (if the poster so desires). It is a community message board and posters are free to post their thoughts or whatever (following community guidelines). We apologize for getting off track.


lrhall41

Submitted by Lorri on Fri, 12/29/2006 - 18:06

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