Lets have a pity party...

Hey...you are not alone this week and I will join you in the pity party. As you probably read my experience with the bank, now car problems, my cousins in the hospital, still dealing with my neck muscles and tendons and nerves hurting and causing tingling in my arm and hand, people treating me like crap and making me feel like I am lower than slime and now I have a headache from hell and am just ready to crawl in a hole. I am not a drinker, but the way things have been going this week, I am about to start! I am tired of feeling like crap. Every time something good looks like it is going to happen, the chair gets pulled out from under me.

wooo is me! :?

That's no chair - that's Murphy's Law. What ever can go wrong usually does. Aren't you glad we have this place and the people here who will listen and not judge. I can't tell you what a relief it is to me.

Oh I agree. I usually end up keeping things bottled up and it is nice to have some place to vent and not be judged. I never spoke to anyone about my financial problems, so it would just eat at me and eat at me and usually my husband does not want to hear about them. Guess he thinks if he doesn't hear about them, it makes them less real, I don't know. But by gosh, he has been hearing about them lately! I am tied of carrying the burden by myself. Just told him what the bank did and he is ticked big time. He said I may not have to make the call, he thinks he will. Then I made things even better for him by telling him about the car! Aahhh, it is so nice to "share" things together. LOL

OH, and I HATE Murphys law!

I know how you feel about the bank - I quit dealing with them when they wouldn't close my acount and kept telling me that it was all my fault - to the tune of -2500+ when they finally closed it. And to top it off, I got a not from the mail man that I had a registered letter - it is from the court. Someone is sueing me and I still don't have enough money for my bk. BOOHOO!

Irish,

Wow, that really sucks. I've never heard of a hanging computer before so that's a new one to me. I hope they get you some kind of desk to work on. Hang in there :-)

They call it a computer tree. It is a free standing metal thing that you have to stand at basically. they are ugly! The guys in large format use them all the time, but they are not doing any of the computer work - they are just checking work orders and shipments. Some bright boy came up with the idea that this would look nice and professional. Yah right!

Man this has been one hell of a week for everyone! Well ok so my week hasn't been that bad...but still I just ran into this lady crying in front of my house and I asked her if she was ok and come to find out she had her divorce hearing today, wrecked her car and her dog eats that food that was recalled because of all the other pets dying and is now in the hospital...I felt so horrible for her.

I guess I'll add my boo-hoo to this....my date cancelled for tonight...but gave some hope that he might be available later this evening...he e-mailed me today to pretty much nix that too. I'm SO ticked. I have a babysitter, so no kids in the house, and I'm alone with the darn dogs. :evil:

God - aren't we all in sorry shape! I ask my mother today if some old one eyed crone cursed her while she was carrying me. She just laughed. Hmmm!

I know that this is a wide spread epidemic of really crappy stuff happening to people. So far, today at the bank, I've done 3 forgery claims, and 2 cases of peoples wallets being stolen. One from a lady who had her purse in her house, left her back door unlocked while she was doing yard work out front. Someone walked into her house in the back door and stole her purse. That is soooo creepy. In broad daylight. Then, my computer crashed in the middle of a forgery claim. THen, I had mean people yelling at me all afternoon because they had to wait to talk to me. Sorry...I can't clone myself. All this with my manager being gone cause her kid is sick. So, I get stuck with the mean, upset people. I'm really good at calming people down, but today was a challenge. oh...did I mention I have to work tomorrow? It's supposed to rain, so not a total loss.

Let's see my boo hoo for the week. I had to go back to work and leave the wife and kids 320 miles away and oh yea got hammered here for trying to help people.Actually had guests looking for Vikas & Mike's email address.Like I would not have already contacted them! :shock: :cry: :roll: Oh well I will get over it and move on at usual.

Ok - here is the capper! I just got a call that I have to go into work tomorrow! @#$$#@$#$#!! So now I will hav eot sign off so that i can get up at 5 in the morning and start packing up my work area! Night all.

Nite Irish~ Sorry to hear that you have to work tomorrow....get some rest.

I think I am going to sign off too! Think I will have a drink or two...Hubby came home to look at car so he can pick the kid up from work!

Talk to you all later on!

Me too . . . . I told one of my creditors a couple weeks ago that I'm going to do my bk myself. They've know for about 4 months that I'm going to file. Well, they decided instead to sue me. I got the summons the other night. Why sue someone you know if filing for BK? So they can loose more money?

Swedishgirl is right about the rain here - It just started. At least I don't have to work tomorrow . . . .

Can I join the PP too? I'm just having one of those wish I wasn't alive weeks trying to get everything in order. I just would like to say, for the record, life sucks!!

The usual.

Short on money long on debt.

Rent is due next week plus I have to come up with a pet deposit.

I also told Check-n-Go I'd pay them the balance of my defaulted PDL. $294.00. He may take another partial payment though. They've been really good about it so far.

Checkmate keeps calling me but I literally won't have any money to give them until April 13th. :cry:

Should I go play Bingo tomorrow night? Maybe I'll win that jackpot! :D

I can add.. Time Warner turned off my phone "in error" Took it away from ATT without my auth.. and I have resumes out now if they call they will get a disconnected number.... this is a nightmare

I have a job with a new boss who I think doesn't like me and has hired another lady to be his assistance because he doesn't trust me. Then other people keeping telling me over and over that I need to be quiet because you don't want to lose your job, so be careful what you say and who you say it to. That gives me the indication that either he has been talking about getting rid of me or there are thieves surrounding me. Never have I been through so much drama.

But I am keeping my eyes on the prize. And keeping to myself when it comes to my employment.

Well, I started this week at my new job and I really enjoyed the first couple of days. The last three have been odd and I'm not sure if I'm going to like working in a call center environment. I get to study at home for the next few days but I do get paid for it. I'm not sure what I'm going to be able to understand but the trainer is going to be out part of next week. The commute is already killing me. It's longer than I anticipated because of the morning/evening traffic. I always interviewed when there was less traffic. :roll: I'm wondering if I made a mistake by taking this job. The good part is I had a couple of messages on my answering machine last night when I got home from work. A couple of places want me to come in for second interviews and they are local jobs. No more than twenty minutes to work. One would be what I'm making now and the other would be more. They are both more my speed of job. Since I'll be home the next few days, I've decided to contact them on Monday to schedule second interviews. I talked to my husband and mom about things last night. They would love to see me working closer to home. I feel like I'm back at square one.

At least you have a few options. This ia a good thing. I have had my resume out for months and the only bites that I have been getting are scams. I know that comuter feeling and I hate traffic. Our new building is right in the middle of rush hour traffic, so instead of a 12minute ride to and fro work it will be any where from half an hour to an hour. I dread the thought.

Alexandra,

I hope things work out for you in your job. I know the last months at my old job, I was walking on egg shells. It seems corporate America seems to be getting worse in some circumstances. Irish, I know what you mean. I'm just really disappointed in this new job. I'm hoping one of the other two work out for me. I hope you find something you like soon too.

Ok...happy fairy is here spreading good cheer and happy fairy dust over everyone! :D I command all these bad feelings and rotten karma and horrible happenings to BEGONE! :lol:

Okay...it was worth a shot. ;-)

Yes it was Sue. It was worth the shot. I just been having a very rough week. With the new people coming in, I have a boss who fears (notice I say fears) that he can't trust me. I can understand that but after a few months, I don't know what else I can do. So I have stopped trying and kept my distance in the hopes that maybe he will come around, I assume. Then again, it doesn't really matter anymore.

Ah, that felt good to let that out.

Alexandra - I have had bosses like that also, and I found that the best way to handle a boss who feels threatened (yes I said threatened) is to just do the best job that you can. Avoid trying to please or worrying about what the boss thinks and do what you know is expected of you, sometimes do alittle extra and shine. Also find one thing about your job that no one else does and cultivate it, make it yours, so that it will be harder to find someone to replace you. Keep telling yourself that you are an itelligent woman with talents that got you this job in the first place and place your boss in God's hand.

very good advice, Irish! The good cheer happy fairy was my attempt to cheer myself up as well! I've learned to follow the very advice I gave my own kids (ages 13, 9 and 2 at the time) when their dad decided to leave...bad things happen in life...and this is a bad thing. It's ok to feel badly about it, be sad, be angry...but it's not ok to let it take over our lives and control us. We will miss out on a lot if we just roll up in a ball and let the world pass us by. We still have to go to work, school, church, etc. In other words, we still have a LIFE to live.

Some days it's harder than others to follow my own advice...but today I'm pulling myself up by the bootstraps and figuratively kicking myself in the butt to get myself going again. I've given up on the no-show guy from last night...apparently he "wasn't in the mood" to call...so guess what...I'm not "in the mood" to put up with his "moods", either. He's out of the picture, permanently...before he even got a chance to be in it.

whoops...that was me...forgot to sign in -that's the first time I've ever done that! :oops:

I try to live by that too Suebee! Alot of things that happen in life, we are powerless over. I told my youngest(26) the other day when he was griping about his job- There isn't a perfect life or job, sometimes you just have to suck it up and tighten your belt and move on. If you don't, you are giving the power to people, places, and things. And no, my life isn't going the way I would like either-but it could be alot worse!! Still don't know how ling mom will make it, my mother-in-law is on a do not resusitate, sis in law had a heart attack, and I take care of my 33 year old disabled son in addition to my mom. And to top it off, the OK. Tax commision sent a bill to us today for $600. from 2001!!! But nothing I can do anything about any of these things, and not gonna let it ruin my day or life- It's too short!!..Karen

That is why I love it here - yeaterday was a sucky day, but the sun is shining today. We can rant. rave commiserate, scold, give and receive advice and no one will judge us - we have a common bond that brought us all together and hopefully we are not only helping ourselve and each other but any one else who finds themselves where we have been and are. Even though I had to work today it got me out of the house and while I was at work it rained like the devil - I came out to sun. The day always looks better if the sun is shining - and you are not in the obits. I am normally a fairly up person and it is not often that something gets me down, but this week did me in. The good thing is I never have to live through it again and neither does anyone else YEA!!!

I talked to my mom about the new job situation. She said she could sense that it wasn't the right job for me. She suggested that I call and talk to my boss on Monday about things. I really thought it was about being the new girl, it's just more than that. I don't want to seem like a whiner but I really don't want to waste their time. I have enough money set back for a few months so that is really not too much of an issue right now. I was hoping to pay off some big chunks of debt. I'm not going to worry about it anymore today. It's stopped raining here and it's a nice evening. I'm going to go watch a movie with my hubby and enjoy some quality time.

Mishele - You have to go with your heart. Having a job that just isn't right affects so many parts of your life. I finally have a job that I love, and everyone I know can tell the difference. You spend so much time at work . . . . .

AMEN! I spend more time at a job that is just a paycheck than I do with my kids! But I know that there is something out there for me. I know that there is some thing out there for you too Michele. And right now God is good and all is right in the world - a day and night for relaxing.

Mishele - I definitely urge you to follow your gut instincts on this one. If you feel the job isn't right, don't stay. It's not the end of the world - there are other jobs out there, and the one with your name on it is waiting for you somewhere!

I would love to have a job where I am enjoying myself all day every day. I remember a time when I enjoyed going to a job because I was so grateful that I had one. I am grateful but not fulfilled.

I agree that you have to enjoy your job. I'm sure the job is right for someone, not for me. Alexandra, you make a valid point about being grateful for having a job. I have to remember that as well. People warned me not to take this job because of the long commute. I'm going to follow up with the other two tomorrow and see if I can get in for interviews early this week. I guess I will take it from there. I'm not a quitter but I figure if I'm going to be miserable in a job, I might as well be closer to home. We'll see what happens as I can only take it one day at a time.

Of the two jobs that I might second interview for, both are customers of my previous employer. One would be for an office manager position and the money would be great. My fingers are really crossed for that one!!! I know it's a long interview process though so it might take some time. The second would be for a long term assignment through a local employment agency. I would be doing receiving for a local factory. I would be okay with that too because the money is good and I know some people that work there. I did purchasing/receiving at my last job as well. Plus, this would give me the opportunity to look for something else and still have a good income coming in. So either would be okay with me.

During my last couple of weeks at ESM the crap collection agency, I binged and purged frequently, drank a lot, and even bummed a ciggy from my coworker to calm my nerves when the debtors pushed me beyond the limit, and I don't even smoke! You wouldn't believe the louts I talked to who are nothing more than ghetto/trailer trash. I think that in their cases, the statute of limitation should be lifted, and debtor's jail be reinstated. A lot of them were border-jumpers from various third world countries who just come over here on their leaky boats to take advantage of American generosity and contribute absolutely nothing. They turn America into a leper colony.

To all of you, I understand that you had a bad week and I even got amused by the lady that the dog was at the hospital (even if its wasn't funny) but that goes to show you that my week has been TERRIBLE. As a background, you all know that I am having financial problems with IPDLs and my stupid bank charging me NSFs every other week. I am just trying to stay afloat week to week. Both of my adult children live with me & husband and they do not contribute to NOTHING to the house. I know it is my fault, and am working on it. My daughter has a 2 year old baby girl that lives with us too (of course) and that baby is the only reason that I wake up every morning.
A couple of weeks ago my daughter decided to quit her job at a "weel-know hardware store" call center, because she didn't like the peopple there. She has been unemployed for 3 weeks, without looking for a job and in the meantime I am supporting her and her baby (as usual). This week she came up with the idea that she wanted to make money fast and that she had a friend that worked at a strip-club (yeah, you know) and she could be a "cocktail waitress" there. I had my heart broken about her decision. She even went to Catholic school when she was little and now coming up with that, just broke my heart, but I had to let her do it to see if she liked it.
She worked 2 "nights" and even though she hasn't said anything to me, she hasn't worked for the last 4 nights and asked me to send her resume to "day jobs".
I am excited about it and this just happened a few minutes ago and wanted to share it with you guys, that things will get better.
PS: My finances have not changed and I am stll in debt.
Good night.

Wow. Ok, here's why I've been so crabby for the last week or so..

A few weeks ago I found a lump under my arm at the top of my right breast. I figured I just cut myself shaving, so I let it go. It got bigger, and I didn't care for the texture. Also, I reached a point where I couldn't raise my arm above my head. I went to the Dr, thinking he would just say it was a harmless cyst, but he didn't...He decided to do a biopsy. The results came back, and he called me. He didn't give me the details over the phone, he said he wanted to meet me at the hospital the next day for some blood tests. So I did this and had a mamogram (dammit, I'm only 33!!) and waited..and waited.

Finally I got news. I have Lupus, which is an antiimmune disease and generally makes things worse than they should be. I have known this since I was about 21. Well, apparently this is a tumor under my arm, non-cancerous right now. I have to have it removed pronto, though. I'm not really excited about this, because due to the stress of waiting for results I had a major Lupus flare up like I haven't had in YEARS and I have a nasty itchy painful rash under both arms.

But hey..I'm not gonna die!! :D

Fins! You need to definitely get that taken care of ASAP sweetie. I'm so sorry to hear about this, but like you said, there are good points to this - it's not cancerous, and if you get it taken care of right away, things should be just fine. I'm glad you went to the doctor right away and got it checked out.

Please take care of yourself, pm me anytime you need to talk or anything, and let me know if there's anything I can do to help. I'm serious.

Thanks Sue, I appreciate that!

I'm fine, we're gonna take it out next week, I'm only going to have to miss a couple days of work. I'll have to take some nasty horse pills for awhile, but it's fine...I'm strong and young and healthy.

It was AWFUL, though..I was crying a couple of times a day. I didn't want to die. I was so damn scared. I'm such a baby..All that over a harmless tumor.

Lupus? Tumours? F#ck what a disaster! I'm so sorry for you. I know there is no way out of that one, I hope there is no pain or suffering for you.

I understand how you feel, Fins - I'm glad you were able to find out fairly quickly that it wasn't any more serious. I've been there too, and had the same reaction - lots of tears and stress until things came out ok. I'm serious, you let me know if you need anything.

I bet you were scared Finsfan... I would be too. I am glad that it wasn't anything worse. Good luck to all of you. You will see, things will get better....

Wow, that has put my bad week in perspective that it wasn't as bad as others.

Fins,

I'm so sorry sweetie but I'm glad that you are getting things taken care of so quickly. My ex sister-in-law has lupus and I understand what a struggle it can be. You are not a cry baby, you are only human. When we found out about mom's cancer last year, we had to wait over the long July 4th weekend to actually find out the results. When the doctor told us after her colonoscopy that it might be cancer, I started to cry. I couldn't show that around my mom because she was just starting to wake up from the procedure. Then we had to tell her the bad news because the doctor told her when she was still coming out of the anesthesia. That was a rough few days. I'll keep you in my prayers this week :-) Here I am whining about my new job. What a dunce.!!
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Fins, you are a strong person and you have a lot of support here. I am sorry that you are having to go through this. Dang, and I thought I was having a rough time.

Fins - I know what you are going through, the waiting is always much worse the anyting else is. Your brain starts thinking on fear not reason and everything becomes magnified. I have put you on the prayer line and I wish I could give you a hug, but if you need anything - moral support or just a shoulder to cry on pm me.

God I love you guys!! :D I'm ok, really....This could've been a lot worse, I'm ok. I wonder if I can sue for mental anguish, though?

I looked - you can't even sue when someone makes you crazy. But I do think that you can commit murder or mayhem and declare mental anguish. :lol: (LOL)