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Date: Wed, 03/28/2007 - 05:56

Submitted by jedijeff13
on Wed, 03/28/2007 - 05:56

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Now that I have everyone's attention..... :)

I think too much is happening too fast here. In that, I think we are letting all this affect us personally. It was once said "Never argue with a stupid person. The will just drag you down and kick your ass with experience." I see that around here. We are allowing a very small percentage of strangers to dictate who we are and what we think of ourselves. I thinks fins (or Tammy or Steelers or one of you chickies) said on another thread "we are all adults". That we are. So let's not allow all these childish activities to change us or make us run.

We are all here of our own free will. We do not pull a regular paycheck. We were not hired. We all volunteer. We don't have to respond to people that speak viciously towards another. In fact, we don't even have to read it, and a few of us can be sure others don't read it as well. You don't have to read a PM. Check box and delete. You don't have to let guests contact you in any fashion. What gets to you is only what you ALLOW to get to you. Do not give them power over you.

I propose we get back on task. Let's provide the assistance we have in the past and NOT allow us to be pulled apart and destroyed. And if you are going to come here and make a personal attack on anyone, expect to be censored. This site receives no government money, so freedom of speech is not required. If you want to be an @sshole, so somewhere else. It is always the few that ruin it for everyone else. I plan on stopping those few every chance I get.


HERE HERE!! I agree whole heartedly with you Jeff. Any one coming on this forum at this time would back away real fast thinking that no one here knows their @ss from a hole in the ground with allof the garbage going on. I have received so much kindness and an extreme amount of help and support here - I want to give it back, but with out the members who have helped me I will have a great deal of difficulty getting things right.


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Submitted by Colleen H Carrocia on Wed, 03/28/2007 - 06:07

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i read everything here and i understand very well
now.people are send bad pm for the members of this forum that only want help people that needs help in this forum.
if i do anything wrong against these forum please tell me or delete any posts that i write in this forum.
i love the members of this forum because they always help people in this forum and i think they are doing
a lot more for people than government is doing.
this site is the last hope for consumers abused
and the only people we have to help us IS THE MEMBERS OF THIS FORUM.
debt consolidation CARE IS MY LAST HOPE AND THE LAST HOPE OF MANY CONSUMERS IN USA.


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Submitted by tsacgiv on Wed, 03/28/2007 - 07:55

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whatever, guest. sorry you feel that way, have a nice day.

Jeff, I think you made some very relevant points in your post. Many of us have been personally attacked by guests in an attempt to make us leave or stop posting, or whatever their intent is. The best defense against that is to kill them with kindness, and move on to helping the next person in line that requests help with debt/credit issues. Make your response to them without going on the attack and then drop it. They're like a playground bully - if you don't respond, they don't have any fuel for their fire, and they fizzle out. It's no fun to attack someone who doesn't fight back in the way they want. (And by "fighting back", I mean going back at them in anger and frustration, rather than responding calmly and then dropping the subject.)


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Submitted by SUEBEEHONEY70 on Wed, 03/28/2007 - 09:36

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I agree. The guests play a role. Many guests, in turn, become registered members. But quite a few start off as lurkers and hidden posters (and I am not using hidden and a negative term). Some choose to stay that way. Great. If they are happy and get the knowledge they need to help themselves (and maybe give to others), it is a fantastic thing.

BTW - I didn't take any offense to that.


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Submitted by jedijeff13 on Wed, 03/28/2007 - 11:00

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I post on two other credit boards and on both those boards you must be members to post. It keeps the trolls away. Both those boards have a huge volume of new people posting daily and nobody objects to becoming a member. If people really want help with their credit issues, they will have no problem registering.


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Submitted by SOAPLADY on Wed, 03/28/2007 - 13:01

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[quote=Soaplady]If people really want help with their credit issues, they will have no problem registering. [/quote]

Agreed!! We did the same thing sometime back by allowing only members to post. While checking the logs, we found that the visitors who didn't return were often more in number. Not every one of them came with bad intentions on this website. Most of them truly had debt problems but they decided not to register until they know this place better. Basically, by disallowing guests to post, help becomes restricted especially on those who feel embarrassed discussing about their debts. Staying anonymous for a while, they get to know about the community. (And a person with a bad mind will misuse this feature). Other websites also have similar concerns but ultimately it's their choice to enforce member's posts only.

We don't wish to force on anyone to join here. If someone wants to join, it will come by personal interest, not by force.

Regards
Mike


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Submitted by Mike on Wed, 03/28/2007 - 13:28

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I will value everyone's suggestion. All of you are valued here because of your contribution towards this community. It's like your home, a group where you spend some of your precious time. Please give some tips and suggestions to make your group better.

There is no place in the world and there is not single day in life where one won't have any problems with others or something related. We have problems in home, office or anywhere else we involve into. Do we leave our home? Do we leave our place of work for something not liked at that moment? I have yet to see anyone from here who comes for "personal benefits." You decide to come out of your own wish. Why not do something individually for this group? This board has heard negatives after being valued for a long time. Did everything change in just a fraction of a second? And if it has, isn't it all of us who can restore it to normal? We all can try and make it a "Sweet Home"

Regards
Mike


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Submitted by Mike on Wed, 03/28/2007 - 13:45

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ok...you guys are awesome. I posted on another thread that I'm going to take a break, but you really make me laugh, Jedi! I'll stick around and give advice and direction when it can help. Jedi, I totally agree with you. Like I said on the other thread, they win when we all leave. I don't want to give them that satisfaction. Now....how do I block guests from my PM?
:?


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Submitted by swedishgirl on Wed, 03/28/2007 - 15:30

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While we are on the subject of what this forum is really for and what really brought us here, please allow me to share my beginnings with this forum and who inspired me to join and help.

It was Tammy.

Back in October of 2005, I had just helped my husband triumph over a bogus collection effort made by First Credit of America, I was google searching "collection agencies" just to see for myself what else was out there, and one of the links shown said "This collection agency has gone too far." and it said the poster's name was "mom of twins", Tammy's original username. Anyway, I read her post, and low and behold, it was about a call she recieved from the aforementioned agency, and how they used threatened her with false arrest and called her foul words. I thought to myself "This woman is a mother, if someone talked to my mother that way, God himself wouldn't be able to stop me from hunting this jackass down and kicking his ass from East to West!" and then I posted a response to that. I went on to read other postings, and it occurred to me that most people don't know very much about their rights and about collections laws.

I was hooked.


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Submitted by Jedi Mistress Ari on Wed, 03/28/2007 - 16:08

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I have to agree with Mike about Guests. I started as a guest, and stayed that way for some time. I wanted to see what the people were like here, make sure this was a legit forum :lol: , and not spread my whole life for you to see, and others. I eventually registered and am so gratefull. There will always be spam, bad posters who harass or get nasty-both guests and members, as long as you are on the internet, and have this many members. You can do damage control and try to weed out the problem people, but you can't become too exclusive, or you cut out alot of people..I don't have 2 cents, but there it is!!..Karen


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Submitted by Bossy4455 on Wed, 03/28/2007 - 16:18

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I was on here for about three days as a guest also just reading and getting the feel for the place and the people. Then when I saw the comeraderie and the caring words that were being said by Mishele,Kyside,Fins;Bossy, Jeff, Dbaker, Ari, Steelers, Brownsugar, SueBee and Jesse - I know that I am forgetting someone, but my point is I didn't fell so alone andlonely in my horrible time of need. this forum has become my haven - my sanity saver - a place that I canrant and rave and cry and laugh, where everyone here know my worst secret that even my family is not aware of. I know that I need this place and the friends that I have made here who have walked my through some really tough times. We have to find a solution to fixing this. Sorry for the ramble, but I am discombogulated today.


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Submitted by Colleen H Carrocia on Wed, 03/28/2007 - 16:31

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I have read each post and wanted to say that regardless what guests may write in as negative, I know that I have been helped by all the assistance I have received, any negative comment I skip over. As far as knowing who the "guest" is who really cares, anyone posting negativity are just hidding behind the truth, may they find the help they need one day. And to those leaving the negative/unacceptable comments here, I pray you receive the help you need one day, if it is debt related, then I pray you find your answer here if it is of another nature......well keep searching your answers are out there as soon as you open your eyes!


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Submitted by taki2u on Mon, 04/02/2007 - 09:18

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