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Date: Wed, 10/17/2007 - 10:08

Submitted by SUEBEEHONEY70
on Wed, 10/17/2007 - 10:08

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Hi Guys....

seems like all I do lately is post requests for prayers.... sorry about that.

My daughter and her boyfriend came up for a visit from VA to MI last weekend, as some of you know. The last I heard from them was on Sunday afternoon, when they arrived in IL to visit her boyfriend's parents. They were headed from there back to VA, where they were supposed to be back at work on either Tuesday or Wednesday.

No one has heard from them since.

I've called her father and grandmother in VA - neither of them have heard from them. I've called both of their cell phones - they are turned off (I'm assuming for non-payment of the bill, as the message says "temporarily out of service"). I've called their workplace (they both work at the same fast food restaurant) - they haven't called in or checked the schedule to see when they are supposed to work. They are supposed to start back to work on Thursday, but no one there has seen or heard from them, so they wouldn't even know they are supposed to be at work on Thursday. My daughter's dad drove by the place they live at - no car. That doesn't mean they're not around somewhere, but it's not a good sign. They are late sleepers as they usually work late at night, so they sleep until noon or later, so the car not being there before noon is not a good sign.

They were traveling on very little money - much less than what I would consider a safe amount for this type of trip (over 1300 miles round trip), and I am worried that they have gotten stranded somewhere and run out of cash. They also had no car insurance - something they didn't want me to know, but the boyfriend let it slip while they were up here that they didn't have any.

I'm torn between being really ticked off that they haven't called (from a payphone or something - anything), and being very worried that maybe they are in a situation where they can't call.

Sorry for the long post...but please keep a good thought and prayer in mind for my daughter and her boyfriend. If they are safe and haven't called, they'll need it, because this mom is going to be pretty angry with them if that's the case.

If there's something else going on, I don't know how I'm ever going to find out. I'm not going to call out the cops looking for them until I know for certain that they haven't been back to their residence or to work on Thursday.


I am so sorry to hear that you haven't heard back from them yet. I am sure it is like Frogpatch said.. I am praying they call you and just say .. Mom we forgot we were just being crazy kids.
After reading your post, I can see how my Mom felt when I did stuff like that.. and how I am going to feel when my now 6 yr old does this later in life.

Hang tight.. we are here for you. :hug:


lrhall41

Submitted by lorim1971 on Wed, 10/17/2007 - 12:28

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Ok guys...update time.

My daughter finally called around 2:30 this afternoon. From Illinois. They never left Illinois after they arrived there Sunday. So they sat there for 2 whole days, knowing full well they didn't have the money to get back to VA and would be coming back to my house - and didn't bother to call and tell me - or anyone else, for that matter.

They bought food with the money they were supposed to use to get back to VA. They have enough to get back to my house, but that's it. So they will be on my doorstep sometime tonight. Looks like they will be moving in with me sooner than I thought.

I am drafting a contract between all three of us regarding how this living arrangement will work, and all three of us will need to sign it. We are going to have a LONG conversation about responsibility and consideration for others when they get there tonight.

Thank you for your prayers and thoughts - just when I thought things were getting better....BANG. I'm glad they're safe and nothing bad happened...but we have a very long road ahead of us now.


lrhall41

Submitted by SUEBEEHONEY70 on Wed, 10/17/2007 - 12:34

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Wow...I started reading and my heart was in my throat and then I saw you heard from her. Thank God...but you are oh so right...contract or not they need to know and abide by the rules or else!!! I have been through something similar with my daughter so I know all too well what was in your mind and heart SueBee....Good Luck to all of you...


lrhall41

Submitted by Morningstarr430 on Wed, 10/17/2007 - 15:59

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Oh Sue !! I just now read through all the posts-what a scary time for you! I am soooo grateful they are ok.

It's like we pray for them to come or call-then-much later they do-and you want to kill them :lol: I know- have been there several times with my youngest son.

Writing a contract is a great idea-did that too. That way no one can say-I didn't know about that!!

You guys are in my prayers-the boys too!!

PM me and we'll talk sometime-I miss ya..Love ya girlie..KAren


lrhall41

Submitted by Bossy4455 on Wed, 10/17/2007 - 16:49

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Thanks everyone!

They arrived around 9:00 last night, after missing 3 exits and having to backtrack to get back on the right roads. Their car is "impounded" in my driveway. I told them absolutely, under no circumstances, can they drive until we get insurance on the car. They want to run right out and get jobs right away, but we need to look at them getting jobs in another city, closer to where we're going to be living in the near future. So I imagine we're going to be running around this weekend in my van looking for jobs.

We had a very long talk last night about the contract I'm drawing up and how this whole living arrangement has to go for it to work for everyone. So far, they've agreed to everything...but guess what - she has an unpaid PDL with a LEGAL storefront in VA, and the check was just sent to the bank on the 16th of this month. So we need to contact them ASAP. Thank goodness it's only $172.50.


lrhall41

Submitted by SUEBEEHONEY70 on Thu, 10/18/2007 - 04:56

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You are on the right track, Sue! Sometimes all it takes is someone to guide them, or make them do some things they don't want to-to get them on the right track.

My youngest is still not very responsible, but his gf has "made" himpay on debts, and change some of his priorities.Don't know if he will ever be totally responsible :lol:

Just remember to take care of yourself,too, in all of this!

I'm here if you need totalk.KAren :D


lrhall41

Submitted by Bossy4455 on Thu, 10/18/2007 - 07:47

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Oh my gosh Sue, I just read this. I know you were worried sick but thankfully everything turned out ok. It seems kids just don't use their head these days and don't seem to think of how their actions affect others, especially their parents! The contract thing sounds like a great idea. Stick to your guns with it. A big sigh of relief for you!


lrhall41

Submitted by 2nband on Thu, 10/18/2007 - 15:44

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Thanks again everyone - I'm finding out more and more as I talk more with the two of them - they're coming to me with the following:

-$172.50 outstanding payday loan
(I've called and made arrangements on that already - I figured I'd better handle it since I know more about these companies than she does-she only knows how to borrow from them!)

-$1000 in medical bills for trips to the ER that were probably unnecessary and would have been paid for if they had gone and gotten on Medicaid like I told them to long ago! :evil:

-$211 cell phone bill (which has been turned off for non-payment)

-$800 balance on the loan on their car

-not to mention the paycheck they have waiting at their former workplace in VA, but can't receive until they return their uniforms, which are also in VA - in the house where they were living, in an unlocked bedroom, along with her $2000 computer, hundreds of dollars worth of dvd's and video games, all their clothes, and their furniture. I've asked her dad to go get that stuff, but I'm not sure when it will happen, and if anything will be left, given that the room is unlocked and about 10 other people live in the house.

:evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:

Sorry, I'm one ticked-off mom this morning.


lrhall41

Submitted by SUEBEEHONEY70 on Fri, 10/19/2007 - 05:10

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