The feel sorry for myself thread

Sometimes I get really mad at my husband and don't talk to him for days. What gets me is that he may not even notice that I'm not talking to him unless I the kids clue him in. :evil:

still no apology! He's acting like nothing ever happened, he just did something really lewd a minute ago, I'm not responding. I will be sleeping facing AWAY from him until he says those magic words.

I will bow to your greatness if you actually hear them. I rarely do but I do get the whole kiss my a$$ make up thing. I had five males in the house at one time..hubby and four boys..and I am the only female (except the dog)I love them all dearly but there is something about the male horomne that renders them clueless. I get aggrevated becuase there seems to be a constant double standard...sometimes I wonder if they reazlize that communication is not yelling and storming around and swearing. Now, I have to admit, hubby has been the greatest through this surgery and one hand thing...he has not complained or gotten frustrated and believe me he has been put through the ringer...BUT other times...UGH!! And I mean no disrespect to the guys around here..my entire post is in reference to the males I live with...and I am realistic enough to know that I am no peach at times :lol:

It must be that time of the month for they guys we live with :x Hubby has said some stupid stuff and one really hurt me and he wonders why I get mad :? We are going through some issues with my daughter right now and he tells me not to raise my voice to her when she is yelling and talking back to me. OMG if I would have done that to my parents I would have gotten smacked so hard. I am supposed to take that from her :x I kinda feel like a doormate this week, everyone around here is yelling at me and I have to keep my mouth shut :shock: My son was talking back to me today then hubby goes in there and yells at him, when he came out I made a comment about me not being able to set them straight but he can...Hmmmm :? .... I told him just because he has the REAL set doesn't mean they work lmao he got pissed. But it's all ok, we are going up to the cabin and going to ride the snowmobiles, so I will have peace for hours until we stop for a break. Because I can hear him with my helmet on lol. Plus maybe with it being cold he will chill out a bit.

Well if y'all females weren't so emotional all the time y'all would be so much easier to live with. :lol:

*runs out the back door as the angry mob with torches approach* :shock:

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LOL, I am emotional!! It's part of my charm! :D

Last night before bed he told me that maybe he overreacted. Hmm, ya think?? I think that's as close as an apology as I'm going to get.

Now I really feel crappy. I ran a 5k this morning, that's just a small race, just over 3 miles. I have been running since I discovered track in 6th grade, so I am NOT a newbie here..Well, some man who before the race told me he was 82 was running beside me for awhile. After about a mile he shot ahead. I thought, what an idiot, he's going to hit the wall. I didn't see him again, so I figured he ended up falling out or was walking. NO!! When I finished he was there slapping people on the back, and his water was more than half finished..So he'd been there for awhile. WTF??

ry Fins for your problems..I have had my share in the 28 years too!! What helped me was--someone told me I was giving him all the power by letting him ruin my day, week, etc--that made me angry!! He was sleepingm, eating, etc., and I was mad all the time!

I also raised 2 sons--sometimes some men are clueless--my hubby can get really angry and be a total idiot, and then an hour later not remember what he did, said, etc :lol:

I statred years ago by saying to him--You really hurt my feelings, disrespected me, etc when you did this--then sometimes he would get it and apologize

Don't let they, them or it, ruin your day!!

I will say that my sons learned at an early age what respect meant and that it was un acceptable for them or hubby to disrespect me. Had onme of my sons buck up to me and I grabbed him by the front of his shirt and told him I would smack him--then call child welfare for him so he wouldn't have too--never happened again!! Hang in there!! Love ya girlie..karen :D

Thanks Karen.. I have to put it in perspective. He's a good man, a very good man. He is a fantastic dad, never too busy to play with Andrew or help him with his homework. He doesn't drink, do drugs, beat me or get in trouble with the law. He is educated and has a great job, and he's handsome. The problem is, everyone thinks he's so damn great. He's the golden boy. I think my family loves him more than they love me..It just gets old. Frequently he has work events that require dressing up and me going with him. I always feel like I don't look good enough, or act right or say the right things..He never tells me this, but he is such a perfectionist, and he ALWAYS does and says the right thing...Me, I'm hyper..I'm not loud, but I'm small and quick and I flit around. This drives him insane. He looks at me and raises his eyebrows and it pisses me off. The people at work tell me that I'm adorable and my horse laugh and bouncing on my heels when I'm standing and talking are part of who I am. My husband just wants me to tone it down and stand still.

*sigh* I guess I should just count my blessings, I love him very much, and I know he loves me. I just always want more...Wow, how do I get out of this awful funk I'm in?? This is very unusual for me..

Fins- you are and always have been good enough!! My problem wasn, I didn't realize this for years--thought I had to be, look and act different--Just be yourself!

My hubby rolls his eyes too--but I just laugh!!

Every now and then I will say something and he will reply--sometimes you really scare me--and we both laugh!!

Start focusing on something else and you will feel better--the more you think of it, the madder you will be!!

Do whatever it is that you would be doing if this wasn't going on--this will pass--try being good to yourself!!..Love karen

You are so right, thank you. I am going to go to Meijer in awhile and buy something for myself..Don't know what yet, but something. A little retail therapy always helps.

Go get a pedicure after the shopping!

That's a great idea!! My toenails are getting so long, they are going to put holes in my socks! Just kidding..

HAHA!! :lol: Are they like "talons"?

They are!! Bright pink ones!! F**k with me and I'll slice out your entrails with my foot.

LOL!!! :lol: We are having some decent weather today (60's) so I am going to head out to get one. Love the paraffin dip!

No decent weather here, but it's supposed to be in the 40s next week, so maybe some of this junk will melt. Then we'll get another storm and three more feet of snow.

We finally got a break in the rain....just for 1 day though I believe.

We were going to head up to Reno to watch the game tomorrow, but are afraid we will get stuck up there due to the snow.

Cant wait for some warmer weather!

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LOL!!! i will think about that! I will have to edit it a bit though, don't want to scare away new people..Of course, it could be a secret weapon against spammers...

Guess we are discussing the weather today,huh? Well it is supposed to be warm here but the wind blowing is freezing to me. In the 50's supposed to to be but a bad wind chill. I almost froze yesterday while I had to go out it was in the 30's with wind chills in the 20's.

Guess we are discussing the weather today,huh? Well it is supposed to be warm here but the wind blowing is freezing to me. In the 50's supposed to to be but a bad wind chill. I almost froze yesterday while I had to go out it was in the 30's with wind chills in the 20's.

Oh my..I would KILL for weather like that right now!!
We have been having wind chills that have been 20 below..But it's warmin' up now!!!!!!!!

Fins I am glad you are feeling better. I got pissy today and went to get a pedi myself and laughed as I was reading this. Mine are "hooker red" as my son calls them. It is beautiful here. I went out without a coat and wore flip flops - did not want to ruin the polish. And the sun is shining, have not seen that in weeks. Oh and while I was out, bought two new pair of shoes. Retail therapy at it's finest :wink:

I just got back from Meijer! I bought some really dumb stuff..I got some eyeshadow, an eyeliner, and mascara scientifically made to make green eyes pop!! LOL, It really does work, my eyes are really VERY olive, and these make them emerald. What a wonderful lovely waste of money!! :D :D I also bought some new nail polish. The nail place was packed, so I will wait on the pedi..

So much for the clear weather...just started pouring again.

Flipping through the channels and guess whats on... Vision Quest! :lol: Remember that movie with Matthew Modine and the wresting!

Oh wow..That's an oldie!

Remember the show "Davis Rules"? or "Dear John"? What about everyone's fave.."the commish"? My parents loved that one. Now why am I thinking of ancient tv shows?

Well, don't hate me but it's supposed to be getting up to 73 tomorrow! Wheeee! I do so love living in Florida. Even though it's North Florida, still warmer than Southern (northern state of your choice) any day!

As for TV shows? Anyone looking forward to Battlestar Galactica's 4th and final season starting up in March? Man that is a great show! Hate to see it end. Still better to have it end on a high note than poop out on a low one.

I haven't watched Battlestar! I am loving the new American Gladiators...

Hey, I forgot, what was the name of this thread? I spent all day(off and on) cleaning our bedroom .REAL cleaning and rearranging and what does hubby do when he comes home? He leads the dog into the bedroom and all the time I am screaming "her feet are muddy(as she just came in from outside) he invites her up on the bed and then announces that her feet are wet and there are wet spots on the sheets , as I had the bed turned down.I get so frustrated that I swear never to clean that room again! I do love this thread,Thanks to the OP.

I love this thread too! :D My husband, who still hasn't apologized, by the way...Just complained that the trash was heavy. I said "I know, I filled it up." Now he's mad at me again..

This is quite a theraputic thread. Hubby is sick and waaaaaayyyyyy crabby. Bit%$ed about EVERYTHING!!!! I went out of my way to cook him and the inlaws dinner...tried to cook his fav..shrimp...tried a new recipe and he said...would taste better if it were hotter and the bread was overdone...and why do we not have more salad dressing.(He threw it all out and I only buy the one kind he eats) After everyone left, I told him the next time he invited anyone over..he could cook, I was done, then I told him I was sick of his whining and the best thing he could do is go to bed. He is the biggest baby when he gets sick. UGH!! Tis is going to be a long week.

I feel for you as I can relate to that story.If my hubby starts complaining and being an a?? in front of company ,I keep quiet because i know if I talk back or take the bait so to speak it will just escalate into a full fledge argument! So I just do my best to keep quiet and then speak my mind after everyone has left.

Well m,y hubby got better over the weekend. Heck I even woke up this morning with one of my wonderful migraines :evil: So I took my good drugs and called in. So I slept all day :oops: but thank god it is gone. He usually gets mad at me when I do that (he should have one of my headaches once :x ) But he was ok today, he didn't get mad :shock: Then when he got home from work he made me a sandwich :shock: So right now all is good here :)

Mine is still sick..UGH! Puddle, mine was like that about migraines and I wished them on him just once so he could understand the pain. A couple of years ago he started having occular migraines and now he gets it and does not say a word if I say I have a headache. :wink:

YAY!!! We are going to fight again when he gets home!! He thinks the cell bill is too high! I can't wait!!!

Fins...get em honey! We have our own bank accounts to which our own pay is deposited and have divided the bills....he has no clue what most stuff costs. HE pays the car he drives, I pay mine, he pays his insurance, I pay mine...works out nicely. That is also why he is in the dark about the pdls :wink:

That is a great idea!! I am in charge of the finances, but apparently I suck at it now, because the cell bill is $30 over, because I texted over the limit!!! I CAN NOT wait until he gets home! This will be FUN!! I swear, I think I need to take a vacation by myself to forget what it's like to be married. WTF, we have always been so great together, but for the past month we have done nothing but fight! What's going on?

We go through that too. Everything will be great for months and then we go for weeks fighting like cats and dogs. I am not sure why either. The older I get the more I quit falling into the trap. I let him get pissy and just move on. When he comes in all crabby, I tell him to go outside and come back in, this time in a better mood. The other thing I have started doing is telling him that I know he is not mad at me and ask hin what he is really mad about. Sometimes those two things makes him stop and think. If they only realized all the stupid things they do that we overlook.

We do overlook a lot!! If only we could stop and think..Will it matter 2 weeks from now? Will this really be important tomorrow? I had a rough day, we had a serious injury at work, and I'm pretty worried about the person..I don't need this right now. He sure knows how to pick his times.

Oh Fins, I am so sorry, I hope the person at work will be ok. That is difficult when stupid stuff happens and you are foucused on something important that in comparison is minor or can wait. I hope he recognizes you do not need this right now and he should come back later. If he does not tell him...I aill have to remember those tow points and use them in our next arguement. Beucase usually the answer is , no it will not matter and no it really will not be important tomorrow. I will say a prayer for your coworker.

Thanks for your prayers, they always help. I think..I pray..That my co-worker will be ok. He is an older man, and he just came to me last week to start his retirement papers, he's been with the company 36 years. He has never had any lost time for health issues, seems very healthy, maybe could lose 20 or 30 lbs, but he's in his 50's! Anyway, he was working on an 8-ft platform and somehow fell over the railing onto his back. I'm not sure how this happened, OSHA will be out tomorrow..I went up there, I am 5'1 and the railing comes up to my neck. He's probably 5'10. I am smaller than average, and there is no way I could roll under or through the railings, so we don't know how he could. The paramedics think that he had a seizure and somehow went over it. He was unconscious for a bit, then he woke up, he stood on his own. His blood pressure was 70/60, though, and his pulse was very weak. He went off in an ambulance. I talked to his wife later, and she said he would be in the hospital at least a day or two for observation. No injuries from the fall, thank God. I really like him, fantastic worker and a great man..I pray he'll be ok.