2nband

Thank you. I am trying to hang in there. I think I will feel better when I get a phone call. Me and my daughter just are seeming to have a really hard time with this. She has been sleeping in his room because she says it makes her feel closer to him. I am still crying at a drop of a hat and have major dark circles under my eyes, but it will get better. I just never knew how hard this was going to be. I thought I was going to die watching the van taking him to the airport pull away. Right now there is that ache in my heart that won't go away. It is so hard to think of him as a man because everytime I have looked at him, I have seen my little blue eyed little boy.

Have not been in much of a mood to post too much but will get back to it shortly, but know I do appreciate everything, all the kind words of encouragement and support. I have done some reading on here yesterday, so will work my way back into the groove.

Love you guys!!

Just a quick update for everyone. I am doing better. Still get a little weepy once in a while, but not as much. When he called me on Friday night, it was hard because I could not really talk to him. When I asked him how he was doing, he informed me he could not answer that question. He pretty much ready from a script giving me his address and information in regards on how to contact him in case of emergency, etc. Then he said he loved me and good bye and hung up. Could not evern tell him I loved him too or anything, so that was hard. But am trying to keep myself busy and as long as I do that, I do better. Getting ready to so some painting at home, so that will help keep be going.

Thanks to everyone who has been there for me. I so appreciate it. It has really ment a lot to me to be able to vent and cry, etc. I will keep you posted on his progress as I get the information.

Karen

yeah, that first phone call is made that way because that is how they are instructed to do it. There is a bank of payphones and all the recruits in the company line up, so it has to be brief. Everyone who goes to boot camp has to make that call. It is just to let you know that they got there alright and thats it. You will hear more from him when he has the chance but phone calls are very rare from boot camp. Keep your chin up, its a hard thing but youre doing great! Youre gonna feel so proud when you see him in his dress uniform...

THe first phone call is difficult becuase you do not get to say anything and it certainly is not a conversation. It does get better. I am happy to hear you are doing better. Hang in there..You all will get through this. And skydivr is right, just think of him in his dress uniform when you go for graduation and how wonderful it will be when you get to see him.

Oh, I cannot wait to see him in his uniform! I have been on the Lakland AFB website reading some of the stuff on there, and it is so hard for me to imagine him doing some of those things. I am so anxious to see him that it isn't funny. Also found a website for military moms, so looked at it real quickly.

For me, right now, it staying busy so I don't have a lot of time to dwell on things. I think my mom and dad are planning on going to graduation and I also think my brother is going to try to go. Don't think my husband will be able to go because our daughter will be in school and she cannot afford to miss too much school. They sell DVD's of the ceremonys now, so I will definitly buy one of those.

we are all here with and for you. We are also being proud of your son .If you need a shoulder there are many of them here for you.

Love ya Karen! You and your family are always in my thoughts and prayers.

YES,IAM PROUD OF YOU AND YOUR SON.I SALUTE YOU BOTH.

Ok, little breakdown tonight. Sitting here by myself while my daughter is gone, so it is kind of lonely. Got the dogs, but they don't even want to play. Got one that is nervous because of the wind outside, one that is just totally crashed and the other is ignoring me. Not much caring for this feeling! Then got upset because my daughter has a a Father/Daughter dance at church this Fri night and my husband cannot get off, so called my brother and he says he thinks he is working late and since it isn't his daughter, he won't ask to get off to go, so now I have a daughter that wants to go to the dance, but no escort. Pisses me off at my brother because I have ALWAYS made arrangements to be there for his girls, even taking time off from work, and he cannot leave work at regular time to take his niece to a dance for a couple of hours. Just makes me mad. Don't know why I even ask him sometimes. If it doesn't benefit him, then he can't do it. Of course that hasn't helped me tonight either!

Well, guess I will go watch Ghost Hunters until my daughter gets home and then go to bed. Also will be writing a letter....Bet that is surprising, huh??? LOL

HELLO FANTASTIC SUPER MOTHER 2NDBAND KAREN:
GOD IS WATCHING YOUR SON FOR YOU.
I'M SURE GOD IS BESIDES YOU,YOUR SON AND YOUR FAMILY ALWAYS. :lol: :rose: :hug:

2n, Keep your chin up. You are doing great. It is expected to feel some sense of "loss" when a child leaves the nest. Sometimes I still feel it and mine has been gone since July. The Graduation is amazing. Mine bought the DVD of his boot camp experience and it was really neat to see...it is more of a montage of clips and interviews but is still interesting, I could pick him out throughout the video. Just bring lots of tissues, I cried like a baby when he stepped off that bus and I got to see him for the first time. :lol: I still get weepy when I thing about it. There are so many wonderful things to come and I am so excited for both of you.

Thaks Roxy...I am very anxious. I can't wait to see him. I have already told a friend of mine that kleenex will probably be the only thing in my purse at that time and she laughted at me.

Atleast when I saw mine, It was raining (a monsoon) that day so he could not tell if I was soaked or crying :lol: . It rained so hard the entire base flooded. It is really neat though, when they finally let them leave base and you get to go places. We stayed on the riverwalk, so we went back to the hotel for awhile to let him unwind and then went to eat...there were so many "smurfs" They all looked so proud. My best moment was when he saw first saw me and told me thanks for bing there and being his mom and never giving up on him and taking him in when i did not have to. And apologized for all the garbage he put the family through. I am his Stepmom and have been married to his dad since he was little. He came to live with us after getting into alot of trouble and I had the final say becuase we had an eight year old in the house at the time to worry about. He is such a personable, bright, articulate young man and I am so proud he found his path. OK...enough about me. I do hope you will come back and tell us everything. Everytime I read your posts I get so excited for you and what is to come. From all your posts, your son sound like a wonderful young man...things can only get better and his future brighter.


Ps. You would be suprised at how many Moms...and Dads had tissues! :wink:

HELLO FANTASTIC SUPER MOTHERS FRIENDS I GO TO TELL ALL OF YOU A BIG SECRET,
I'M SUPER MOTHER OF MY DAUGHTER EITHER.
SHE HAD TO CALL ME EVERY DAY HERE AND WHEN SHE DID NOT CALL ME BECAUSE SHE IS BUSY.
I CALLED HER TELEPHONE MANY TIMES
AND I LEAVE MESSAGES.
PLEASE CALL ME MY SWEET DAUGHTER AND TELL ME IF YOU AND MY GRANDDAUGHTERS ARE OKAY.
I THINK I'M REALLY PARANOIAC SUPER MOTHER.

Tania, you sound like a great mother. :rose: Certainly not paranoid. As kind, gentle and caring as you are with all of us, I say your family is lucky to have you. I hope she calls you soon.

I GREW UP WITH BLIND PEOPLE AND MILITARY PEOPLE EITHER.
I WENT TO PRIMARY SCHOOL,ELEMENTARY SCHOOL WITH MILITARY CHILDREN ALWAYS.
I WENT TO CATHOLIC SCHOOL WITH A LOT OF MILITARY CHILDREN.
I HAVE TWO BASES FOR MILITARY NEAR MY HOUSE.
IN PRAIA VERMELHA AND FORTE SAO JOAO IN URCA RIO DE JANEIRO VERY NEAR OF IBC (SCHOOL OF BLIND)AV PASTEUR 350,IN RIO DE JANEIRO,WHERE MY FATHER WAS A RESIDENT DOCTOR AND WE LEAVE THERE FOR 17 YEARS UNTIL MY FATHER BE TRANSFERED FOR BRASILIA THE
NEW CAPITAL OF BRAZIL IN 1967-68.
IN BRASILIA MY FATHER DIES IN 1999 IN A HOSPITAL
ONLY FOR MILITARY PEOPLE.(HFA)HOSPITAL DAS FORCAS ARMADAS.
MY FATHER WAS IN THE ARMY AND HE WAS CALLED FOR
GO TO THE WAR BUT HE WAS VERY LUCK BECAUSE THE WAR FINISHED.
MY FATHER'S DOCTOR WAS A MILITARY EITHER.

:lol:THANKS ROXYNY!!!
ALWAYS I'M NEAR GREAT PEOPLE ALL MY LIFE AND HAVE SO MANY FANTASTIC FRIENDS IN THIS FORUM!!!

Tania ~ I second what Roxy says. You are always so caring and sweet and I know I love reading your messages you leave for me, although there are times I don't get to read them every time. They give me such a lift, make me smile and even bring a tear or two to my eyes. I am sure your daughter will call soon and let you know they are all ok. Thank you for being such a caring person.

Roxy, thanks so much...Like I said, I am very anxious to see him and see how he has changed. I am a little scared that I won't recognize him. I know it is going to be so hard not to latch onto him and not let him go, but I don't want to embarrass him. I am also anxious to find out what exactly he is going to be doing. He scored extremely high in the electrical field, so anxious to see what job he is getting, and where he is going to be going to tech school. Just talking about this is really making my heart pound! Not is a bad way though.

My mom and I were talking on the phone last night and she told me with Kyle's determination, she can see him advancing excelling in whatever he does. Not too many kids decide at in 4th or 5th grade what they are going to do and stick with it and he was determined he was going to go into the military, no ifs, ands or buts about is, this was what he was going to do and now he has!

I have decided that I am going to try to loose a little weight before I go that way. My stress level has been up super high and I have gained a bit :shock: , so now want to try to loose some of it. Good ole apple cider vinigar, here I come!!! I want him to be proud of me when I get there and not be ashamed to be seen with me.

2n, I should thank you. That was an awsome week for me in so many ways. I am honored to share it with you and am enjoying the memory. Do not worry about hugging the stuffing out of him and embarrassing him...ALL the parents and family members do that...and the Airmen were hugging back just as hard. :lol: I know what you mean about his tech school. We knew my son was "supposed' to go to Air Traffic Control school but everyone in his flight had orders but him...talk about nervous. Kyle will do well with that kind of ambition. My son was the same way. Knew early on he wanted to go in the military. Apple Cider vinegar :? ...I did the same thing before I went. We seemed to eat alot while we were there. All my son wanted to do was eat. He said the food was not bad but he wanted candy, steak, soda, chips, desserts, real food. All the things he did not get to eat during that time :lol: I was so afraid he would bust out of his uniform before we left. :lol: Anyway, I am sure he will be proud of you no matter what. He has a great Mom.

My son always like to eat but always stayed slim! Didn't take after my side of the family, let me tell you! LOL But I do want to look good for him.

ooops guest was me!

I hadn't posted, but did talk to my son this past Sunday. Got to talk to him for about 30 minutes. He sounded really good and a lot better than the last time I talked to him. He is halfway through now. This week he was having "Warror Week". He said he will be glad when he can get a little more privacy. He said some of the guys snore very loudly that it keeps him awake. He said he has learned how to put everything on bread so he can eat it all. Some of his combinations about made me gag because they sounded so nasty, but he just said it all goes to the same place. He has a female drill instructor. He said for the most part she is pretty cool, except when they go out of the barracks. He told me that a whole bunch of people have quit and several the first day of PT. He said he had never heard such a bunch of whiners in his life. He said several were older than him and were carrying on like crazy. He said he tried to tell them to suck it up. He was only 18 and this was his first time away and that he was sticking it out, even though he was super homesick, but he said they still ended up quitting. I am so proud of him for standing up for what he believes in. I do miss that boy something awful. I tried not to cry while I was on the phone to him, but when I got off the phone, the tears came out like Niagra falls.

2nd...fantastic. I think it's super he is so determined to make it through...and he will and so will you. His future will be so secure and I know you will be prouder every day!!!

2n, I am so proud of him and he is not even mine! :lol: I am so happy you were able to talk to him. It sounds like he is doing very well and has a good head on his shoulders about all this. Yeah for you and good job Mom.

Thanks....got a letter from him today too! He was so full of it in his letter....I miss that.

You all know IF I go to TX, you all will be bombarded with pictures

Bombs Away :lol: