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Date: Thu, 02/21/2008 - 12:05

Submitted by 2nband
on Thu, 02/21/2008 - 12:05

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I know there has been a lot of talk about trolls here on the forum and I have maybe a thought/comment/suggestion....

Yes, there are trolls that pop up from time to time. They will continue to pop up as long as we continue to respond to them or talk about them. They are getting the attention they want and are causing havoc on the board. My thought/suggestion is to just totally ignore them. I know this is hard to do, but think about it...if they are not getting the reaction or causing the problems they have came on here to cause, will they not eventually go away or quit? Think like a kid does....if it is something you don't want to hear, do or have anything to do with, just totally ignore it and tune it out. Not saying it is an easy thing to do, but why feed the trolls?

Another thing, I really hate seeing people fight and argue on here. Granted, not everyone is going to agree with everything that someone else says. That is just part of being human. Just because someone does not agree with what another says is no reason to become defensive and think that someone is putting someone down or anything like that. At times, we all have differences of opinions....makes the world go round....but one should never knock someone else if their opinion differs from yours. I try to live by the rule of thumb, treat others as you want to be treated and yes, I do make my mistakes at times, but I really believe that it doesn't matter whether you are seeing someone face to face or thru a message board or whatever...you should still treat people the way you want to be treated. I have felt very comfortable here sharing things that I might not share with someone else...why one may ask? Well it is because I am not judged for my mistakes. I am not put down or made to feel like an idiot (I can do that to myself without having someone else do it for me). Is there not a way to disagree with what someone says without causing negative reactions? Another rule I try to use is Turn the Other Cheek, which I have done all my life. I have felt like I have been slapped in the face many, many times by people because of how I am, but I still do what I can. Sometimes I feel like no matter how much good I do, I still get the shaft and my luck always seems to be bad (case in point...NOW) but I still try to go forward. Life is too short to be constantly fighting and fussing all the time and carry hurt feelings around all the time.

Very few of us have met face to face, but that does not make it right to carry on in a bad behavior. We are all not going to get along, but considering what this board is set up for, why not just treat people with respect or at least be civil? You don't have to like everyone, heck I can't stand my ex or my brother's ex and a few others, but I am not disrespectful to them and I am civil...well at least I try to be. I might gripe and carry on about them to a close friend, or my mom or somebody like that, but really bite my tongue when I see them or talk to them.

So...how about we try to get along whether we like each other or not, work toward the good of this board and turn back to helping those that need the help to deal with what a lot of us have already gone thru and help and support each other when it is needed. Is that not what this site was created for? People are saying they are going to leave or not post here because of some of the goings on, and I understand this, but how about sticking around and helping to get things back on track the way it needs to be? If everyone leaves because of the "trolls", what happens, the trolls win! I for one, do not plan on giving up!!! I may not like everything I read or what is said, but hey, I don't have to. I can just ignore it, not read it, not respond to it and go about my business. No one is making me read what I don't want to read or respond to something that may upset me or possible hurt my feelings. If something hurts ones feelings, why not just send a polite PM and let this person know that your feelings got hurt and why. Instead of getting into a pissing match on a thread, and even thru a PM, try to work things out, at least reach mutual understanding. It can be done.

I am staying around and no one is going to chase me off. I may not be on here all the time, but when I am, I am I like to know that I have people that I can depend on and that others can depend on me for encouragement, support, understanding and hey once in a while, a little fun.

Ok, I am off my soapbox now. I appreciate you taking the time to read this and I hope that is has provided some food for thought. So many of you have been there and are there for me and I just hate to see how things are going.

(((hugs to all)))
Karen

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Thanks. I hate to see wonderful people leave because of some of the things that have been happening, especially when there are ways around it. I remember my mom telling me, when I would come home upset over something that someone said that hurt my feelings, "It takes a bigger person to walk away from the situation than it does to add fuel to the fire."

Sometimes innocent comments can be taken the wrong way, but we need to learn to be sure what was meant before we jump the gun....which we all tend to do at times. I know some of this is easier said than done, but if we all put out the effort, I really think things can be turned around. There are always going to be those attention seekers (or trolls), and they are going to try to stir up trouble, but we need to not let them get to us and bring ourselves down to their level and let them get the best of us.

We are one big family here, and we are going to have our differences....no way to really avoid that, but we also have to learn how to get through our differences and look at the big picture here and what we are trying to do, which is make a difference! We are spreading the word about payday loans, we are helping people to come up with solutions to their problems and when it is really needed, we are donating our points to help a fellow family member. Our big hearts and desire to help people is what is keeping us, me especially, here. I have donated my points at times when someone has needed some help, I was able to help a co-worker by giving them my HOF bonus, I have learned things and have been able to pass the knowledge onto others and have told people about this place. We all have a common goal and that is to not only get ourselves out of debt and make a better life for ourselves, but to help others do the same. In the process, we have been able to share special things that have happened in our lives, the birth of a child, a death, an illness, a graduation, a military enlistment, etc.... We have laughed and cried with each other. We have prayed for each other in times of need or sorrow. We have shared recipes, jokes, become a part of a story, and life in general. Weigh the pros and cons and you will see the pros outweigh the cons. It is up to all of all of us to keep that going.

Vikas did a fantastic thing by starting this site for us. He is given us an opportunity to learn and grow and be able to help other and earn a little extra money in the process, which is something he did not have to do. He is giving to us, so lets give back to him and make this board something that really shines and something not only us, but Vikas can truly be proud of and get away from all the negativity that has arisen.


lrhall41

Submitted by 2nband on Fri, 02/22/2008 - 06:35

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Yep...RESPECT is a pretty big word. I think one of the problems in today's society is that there is not respect any more. Kids do not respect their parents, authoity figures, anyone. The elderly do not get the respect they deserve. It is just terrible. How about that being one of our missions also. Maybe we can start with respecing others here and maybe, just maybe it will spread from this board to the outside world. It is showing over 10,000 members, not counting guests, if us 10,000 plus start showing respect, I think it can spread like wildfire. Have to think positive.

Yes, believe it or not I said positive, even though I have not felt that way recently. I am just praying about things and trying pull myself up by my bootstraps and get back on track, at least on the personal level.


lrhall41

Submitted by 2nband on Fri, 02/22/2008 - 10:07

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That is too true! I was off the board for a while and missed the drama, but I know there have been times in the past when people have slammed each other or jumped to the conclusion that the post was directed at them, when it was a general comment. I try to not take myself too seriously and give advice when I think I know what I'm talking about from experience. Like, with banking. I've been doing that for over 6 years, and I think I know a thing or two, but I'm always learning. That's the fun thing about life...you're always learning if you can open yourself up to it. God bless!


lrhall41

Submitted by swedishgirl on Fri, 02/22/2008 - 10:21

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