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Date: Thu, 03/06/2008 - 19:54

Submitted by Mike
on Thu, 03/06/2008 - 19:54

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Hi my dear DebtCC friends.

I am here to say something that's personal but I thought I have to bring this out because I am not too much on the board and also not in the office these days. My dad is fighting against lung cancer and he is going through a lot of complications these days. Doctors said that he is in stage 4 and it's tough to come back from there. They have been giving him Chemo and radio therapy but now, it seems like that also isn't going to work for too long. His health is not in a condition to take too much medication and is showing complications. I have to stay with my family and look after my dad. I am not too much on the board anymore. Vikas and Jason are helping me a lot during these hard times. Please forward all your requests when you have. They have my account access but it will be better if you forward your requests directly to them.


MY PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU AS WELL MY FRIEND. :rose:


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Submitted by paulmergel on Fri, 03/07/2008 - 06:09

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Mike, I've been off the board for a while due to PC problems, sorry I'm a little late in seeing this thread.

Sorry to hear about your father and his battle with cancer. It is very difficult when a family member goes through a health crisis like this for all involved. I'm glad you are able to be there for him and for the rest of your family as well. Sometimes one family member has to stand out as the "rock" in crisis situations like this and it sounds, to me at least, as though you are the one in that role. I'm sure your father and your family are going to be in good hands with you being there.

I lost my father about 10 years ago, after a prolonged battle with kidney failure. Even though I am the youngest child in the family, I had to be the "rock" in that situation and I think I'm definitely a better person for the experience. And believe me when I say, at times it wasn't easy at all.

If you ever feel down and overwhelmed by all this, just take heart in knowing you have a lot of people pulling for you and your father here on this forum.

My thoughts are definitely with you and your father and family!


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Submitted by FloridaRon on Tue, 03/11/2008 - 23:50

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Mike I am sorry I didn't see this earlier (had the flu) I am so sorry you have to go through this :rose: . I lost my mom 7 years ago to lung and bone cancer. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Like everyone else said, you need to take care of your family first and come back when you can. I am here if you need to talk. :hug:


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Submitted by puddlejmpr on Wed, 03/12/2008 - 20:26

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Sometimes, I sit in the dark and watch all the windows in front of me. I feel like there is a deep story in every corner from where that light is coming out. I read you'll and know that our DebtCC family has lost their family members fighting against such diseases. Life!!

My dad is going through momentary ups and downs with his health conditions. Last week, he starting having fever which was never going down. The doctors were never able to understand the actual reason. Yesterday only, lots of investigations were done and we came to know that he is suffering from pneumonia. Dad is going through a lot of complications. His food habits are changing, sometimes rashes are appearing in the skin, infections in his gums or tongue and because of this, the chemo is getting postponed on every scheduled date. These are all side effects of the previous chemos done. I don????????t know what to expect next.

Dad????????s psychological condition is also not good. He feels that he is not going to stay for a long time, so sometimes he tries to be very stubborn. He wont have his medicines, wont take any food and behave unexpectedly. He sticks to a few things that he wished to see happen in front of him, like my marriage. It????????s not possible right now, and he regrets that it????????s been so late now. I don????????t know how to handle such situations. I am sometimes left very confused and irritated. There are situations that force me to being rude and my mom and sister have to face my wrath. I really feel bad from inside that I hurt them which I should never have done, but I was not able to avoid that one moment when I lost my temper. My mom and sister are looking at me and I have to take care of them. Dad is also expecting a lot from me. Suddenly, I feel like I have grown too much and lots of responsibilities resting in my shoulder. I am the only son after two elder sisters. Earlier, I never needed to do or think about anything at home because everything used to happen automatically, because we had our dad????????s shelter. Ever since he is been in the hospital from Jan 28, lots of things have changed. I have just made up my mind that I have to see a lot more. My mom and sister need to be strong and I will stand as a "rock" to them


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Submitted by Mike on Tue, 03/25/2008 - 19:11

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Mike ~ Sometimes we don't know why things happen, but I firmly believe that thing happen for a reason. This past Sunday I went to church with my daughter and filled out their visitor card. One place it asked if there were anyone that I wanted to have prayed for. Well along with my mom, my grandmother, my cousins that have CF and my brother, I put you and your family down, so know there are prayers going up for you and yours. I know this is a difficult time for you and your family, but try to make the most of the time you have with your dad. Try to keep him cheered up. Maybe bring some old family photo albums and look through them with him and talk and laugh about what was going on when the photo was taken. Share things with him that maybe you never have before. Try to stay upbeat for him and your family so that this is not a time of sorrow, but a time of celebration. A time to bring up all the happy memories and try to make some more before you don't get the chance to. If you ever need to talk or vent or need someone to pray with you, please know that I am here for you, my friend!

Karen


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Submitted by 2nband on Tue, 03/25/2008 - 19:36

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As you know Mike, dad had cancer and I went through alot of the same things--sometimes it's their meds, sometimes their fear.

I am a caregiver for mom who is extremely ill, and a 34 year old son on disability. It is really hard-my fears turn to anger sometimes, especially when I am tired, not sleeping, eating ortoo much pressure. Just rember to take care of you, or there won't be anyone to help with your dad and family--I think you said those exact words to me several times :wink:

I am here if you need to talk ..Karen


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Submitted by Bossy4455 on Sun, 03/30/2008 - 17:56

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Mike, my prayers go out to your father and family. I know this is a very difficult time for all of you, I lost my father 2 years ago and I know how hard and painful a situation like this is. It is very hard to cope with situations like this but god will always give you strength to make it thru. Good Luck Mike and wish you and your family the best.


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Submitted by KATELYN2COOL on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 13:51

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Mike, my prayers go out to you and your family, I lost my dad to cancer and now I am fighting also. May god bless you and your family.


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Submitted by spanisheyes on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 19:57

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Hi everyone in this lovely community and my DebtCC friends.

Hope some of you remember me.. This is Mike. It's been so long since I talked to ya'll. I miss this place so much. But I know I have gone too far from here. I am now living with my mom and sister. I cannot leave them alone. My dad passed away on Oct 27 at 4.00 PM and ever since then, so many things have changed in our life. Dad has done so much for our family in his entire life, we are realizing everything now when we see all those papers in terms of our security. He struggled a lot during his illness. He had to go through lots of medication, chemo and radio therapies. At one stage, he was put into artificial ventilation but by god's grace, he recovered from there. Dad himself was a doctor and he had been practicing since the last 38 years. He was actually aware of every stage when his health was turning worse. On 27th, I was at home when I heard the news of dad. When I saw him in the hospital, I saw his body lying breathless. I will never hear his voice again.

I am with my mom and sister and we three of us are very strongly bonded with each other. We understand each others emotions and feelings. Dad has done everything for us. He had been such a strong pillar in our family. Now, I have to take his role. Mom and my sister look into my eyes and I can read everything silently. They give me the confidence to stay strong and know they have a shoulder to rest on.

Miss you guys. Whenever I get a chance, I will come to the board and be with ya'll.. Love you!


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Submitted by on Tue, 12/23/2008 - 12:32

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my sympathies as well my friend.take care and drop by when you can.having lost a parent to this dreaded killer i know it is an experience that changes all around that person.


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Submitted by paulmergel on Tue, 12/23/2008 - 12:43

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MIKE I'M SORRY FOR YOUR FATHER.
WHEN YOU TOLD ABOUT YOUR FATHER I REMEMBERED MY FATHER THAT WAS A DOCTOR EITHER AND WAS VERY SICK
LIKE YOUR FATHER AND HE WILL DIED TELLING US WHAT WAS HAPPENING TO HIM.
MIKE YOU ARE A GREAT FRIEND,YOU ARE STRONGER AND YOU ARE A WONDERFUL PERSON AND I WISH YOU BE LIKE YOUR FATHER NOW.I KNOW IT IS A VERY DIFFICULT TIME NOW BUT I WISH YOU CAME BACK TO THIS FORUM AGAIN.
MIKE YOU ARE THE GREATEST FRIEND.
I PRAY FOR YOU FRIEND.
EVERYBODY HERE WE PRAY FOR YOU.
I KNOW PEOPLE HERE LOVE YOU VERY MUCH BECAUSE YOU MAKE OUR FORUM GREAT.
DEAR MIKE I DID NOT KNOW WAS YOU UNTIL I READ YOUR POST.
PLEASE CAME BACK TO US.
YOU HELP ME A LOT AND I WILL NEVER FORGET YOU.
YOU HELP MANY PEOPLE HERE AND I WANT TO SEE HERE AGAIN.
I WISH YOU AND YOUR FAMILY A BLESSED HOLIDAY.
I'M CRYING DEAREST MIKE AND I KNOW MANY PEOPLE WILL CRYLIKE ME EITHER WHEN THEY READ YOUR POST BECAUSE YOU ARE A FANTASTIC SON , A FANTASTIC FRIEND AND A GREAT MEMBER OF THIS FORUM.


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Submitted by tsacgiv on Tue, 12/23/2008 - 15:44

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Mike- of cousr I remember you, who could forget!! I am so sosorry about your father. I have thought about him since you told me he was ill. My father wasn't a Doctor, but went through the same things, it is tough for a family to watch.

Please take care of yourself- you are such a good son, and come back when you can. If you need anything, or to talk, you know where to find me..karen :hug:


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Submitted by Bossy4455 on Wed, 12/24/2008 - 05:56

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