Members Guest Posting

Cajun..She usually posts in pub, and usually after mods. Basically, if you see a mean guest post it's probably her. I really wasn't aware of this until Goudah pointed it out to me earlier this week..Now I see it everywhere.

FYI..I think it's better to be honest and cordial than nice. She's shooting herself in the foot.

I agree with Fins - cordial and honest are one thing - but I don't think "nice" would work in this situation. Fair, firm, honest and cordial, I think are the best policy.

Maybe I'm not getting it here--but who are we talking about?? I guess I can't tell because the mean posts are deleted??

So I'm leaving it to you mods to handle this issue.

It seems that it all happened during the time I wasn't present in the board. Hence, I'm keeping myself out of it for the time being.

KS-sent you a pm.
FYI-since admin is leaving it to us, go for it. I wouldn't even try to be nice. You can be nice to her and she will be nice back but then stab you in the back so why even try to be nice? She has not been nice in these guest posts.

Suggestion to amend our forum Tos. Only allow login credentials to one person per user id guest or member.

FYI - Just know that by telling her off she will have a vendetta against you . . . . I don't think that will bother you but I want to make sure you know she is very vindictive.

She got mad at one of the most loved members here because they didn't post that she shouldn't leave a few months back when she was planning on leaving. Because this person didn't post, she and v harrassed her for months and actually managed to chase her off the site for a while.

Ill formulate a PM for her today. She can try to be a bitch to me but she may not like the can of worms that would open.

Or she may kiss your ass. Hard to tell...........just yesterday she was kissing up to Frog asking him not to leave but then making all those nasty guest posts calling him out for not leaving!

I don't think it will go well . . . .

FYI - Just please don't mention things I said in this thread. At this point she is still admitting the things she does to me, and if she finds out I'm telling the other MODS, she will stop.

Really, I think she will just lie and say it wasn't her . . . . . Even though she has admitted in an email to me that it was her doing the guest posting on Frog's thread yesterday.

Do the other members even know that this forum exists? I don't think so..I hope not!

According to admin,only admin & mods can view this forum.You must be logged in as such to even see it on the index page.

Ok..So they can't see it in the headings?

No, they can't.

But I have seen before references made to the "Mod Forum" so I'm sure some members are aware that it exists. Especially since they know that they can "Contact a Moderator" with the link . . . .

Now that you mention it, I think I have seen references to that as well..

Yep they can post here through our feedback setup,but only we can see it.

This is what my PM to her is going to say.


I'm guilty. I've sat back hoping that the drama would die down but aparently it isn't going to so I am going to take action.

Why would you use a guest personal to stir up some crap? I know it was you I did some checking around so just own up to it. I even deleted some of the post myself instead of letting them post in The Pub.

My response to this is, STOP it now. Not tomorrow, not two months from now I mean this minute and don't ever do it again. There will be no more harassments, no more porting as a guest personal to hide your identity there will just be no more.

You are a valuable member here because you bring your knowledge and experience to these forums but if you continue in this manner I will see to it that you get banned from this forums. No, I am not chasing you off or even attacking you. What I am doing is telling you to follow the ToS on these forums and respect those around you. Should you have a problem with someone let a mod know so we can mediate. Do you not remeber how successful that was before?

I don't intend to sugarcoat but I also don't intend to hurt your feelings but you have to know this needs to stop. It isn't healthy for you and it isn't healthy for the community.

How would you feel if you were brand new to this site and you desperatly needed help and when you got here all you saw was word vomit? I don't think you would hang around long. You have more than just yourself to think of when you are a part of this community, you have to this of those who are here for help as well.

Things have to change for the better and I am going to be a part of that change to help this site continue to grow and prosper for those who need information assistance the question is do you intend to be apart of that or not?

WOW. If anything will work that should...

I wonder which one of us she will pm to complain to..Me, Goudah, or Sass. Good luck FYI!! I have my fingers crossed, it can go one of about three ways..

It came out a lot nicer than I thought it would. My PM. I will send it when I get home.

...waiting with baited breath for the outcome of this...

sent. I even corrected some minor issues with the first draft.

oh boy. Let's see what happens..

I think it was worded just right, you did a good job,FYI. How she will take it is another story! I had to confront a member several months back, it didn't go well, but the drama stopped!!..karen

I second that - I think you did a fantastic job, FYI. Tactful and right on the nose.

Fyi,you remind me of the wifie. can claw you apart without you noticing! :lol: Very well worded pm and I thank you for the effort.

Responses I've recieved.. 2 PMs..

Quote:

I think we nailed who nnc was long ago and it dang sure was not a mod.

hehe thanks. I had to edit it many many times before I even posted the PM here. I can be very brutal when it comes down to the wire. I felt that in the end that just being blunt and honest is what was going to work if it works. .

I really want this place to deal with less drama because this is such a good place to find a lot of the help you need.

Obviolsy didn't get the point!! I think she should be banned if she continues to cause trouble for the forums, she has been warned and told that others are onto her.

Wonder which Mod she's trying to take down with her? People have to blame others so they don't have to take the blame

Also I haven't formulated a reply to her because honestly I don't know what more I could say.

I vote for both user id/ip address ban immediately.She has had more chances than many.

That's right Cajun. Also, what more is there left to say? How many times does it have to be said before she gets the point, if ever?

If you are in denial about what you are doing you aren't going to own up and take responsibility, because you can blame it on someone else!!

Jason or Vikas needs a shout and our mod group will have to stand firm behind this decision.Some people just don't get it & I for one have enough younglings at home without having to add to them.

Well to back up my PM I think she should be allowed to fly straight if possible and ban when she messes up. I need to follow up with my word on this, it's important.

I think we will be able to tell pretty quickly if she is going to straighten up or not- it can go either way.

I think she should get this one last chance. I wonder who the mod is that she's blaming..I'm missing something on her end, but that's ok.

I don't think she's going to end up sticking around..I'm interested to see where this goes.

I think she is throwing that mod business in to stir the pot. Why would a mod want to post as a guest and give up their priviledges. That mod would also face our wrath quickly as we know each other writing styles pretty well.

I vote to give her one last chance--and make sure that she knows that she's on her last legs. And FYI, great PM by the way. Couldn't have said it better myself.

I think we should stand behind FYI's words in her PM, since she kind of told her "straighten up from here on out, or face possible ban" - so I think we need to follow through with that.

Check out the chat room log if you get a chance. I was going to post a screen shot of it here, but decided against it, since names are mentioned in it.

Are we in need of chat room bouncers now! :shock:

So I went in to chat..All I saw was someone talking about needing help. Lay it on us..What did she say, and what names?

Also..I got a pm from her. This is it verbatim:

"I am outta here. Just got mod hate mail."

Wish I would have been in there and saw the names--I am tired of this!!

It also looks like she has no intention of straightening out!!..

it wasn't anything really bad - but she came into the chat just after FYI did, and said "you still here", and then, when there was no reply, she said "ok, I get the hint" and left the chat room.

It was just interesting - I didn't mean to indicate that she had named names or anything - what I meant was I didn't want to put a screen shot on here because HER name was on it (as "-- entered chat"), and we've tried to avoid putting names to this on the forum.

Sorry for any confusion. I just found her comment in chat interesting.

She pmd me a copy of FYI's pm.

Ok guys..I haven't responded..How do you think I should handle it? Obviously I am backing up FYI, should I just tell her that and be done with it, or should I ignore her?

Oh what the hell...I'm going to advise her to stop whining and re-read FYI's pm. Maybe this time she can catch the point.

I had left chat before she joined in. I was only there for many 10 minutes.

You might wish to tell her that it's directed at her and no one else and should anyone else need .. dicipline that it won't be discussed with her. What I mean is her issue is her issue and anytone elses issue will not be divulged with her. It doesn't matter if she feels that more than one person was posting under a guest id, what matters is what she did as far as she is concearned. If there is another then we will handle it with that person, not her.

I don't know if I am making myself clear :p.

I think I got you!! :D

You'd think she'd take it with a bit of class and just move on. If she didn't do it, then she should just prove us all wrong. It's always something, isn't it?

I'm telling you guys, I think she is nuts. And I don't mean to be mean. I really think she has a mental problem. That, and she just doesn't get it. I don't think she is going to stop trying to cause trouble.

Even so I would feel better if we let her make her own decisions and be o n a close look out for the behaviors that aren't acceptable.