Childsupport question

Usually child support is determined based on income. If you are having problems affording child support you will have to go back to court with your lawyer to see if it can be lowered.

I have been told in the past that it is possible to get it lowered due to new children/marriage/lifestyle changes. That is what I am trying to find out prior to hiring a lawyer, which we really can't afford.

Most lawyers will usually give you a free to take a look at you situation and see if he can help.

Definitely get that checked out. The money is supposed to support the kids, not the ex's lifestyle.

If your husband's income has dropped, or he has additional expenses (like the kids, etc), the case should be reviewed. You need to find a lawyer that will work with you - at least try legal aid or something.

Thanks. Hey, do you guys know about the rules for childsupport and divorces? She has let their oldest child (11) chose to be homeschooled. I thought that was something that she and my husband would have to decide on together, but she just did it. She claims it is because boys are getting curious and she wants to keep her home to keep her safe, but everytime we call they are out shopping or she is babysitting for her mom while she is out. She didn't attend reguarly when she was at school and I think she did this so she'd have a sitter and so she didn't have to take her to school.

I live in VA. Here you do not have an atty to have CS recalculated. If I were you I would call the courts and ask how to set a date with the judge.

Thanks we live in Texas but I'll do that. I appreciate the info!

As far as the homeschooling thing being something both parents would have to decide, that would have to be written into the divorce decree (as in, both parents will consult each other in regards to decisions about the child's healthcare, schooling, religious training,etc.) - at least that's what I was told with mine.

However, if your husband is at all concerned about how things are being handled, he needs to get an attorney. I realize you feel you can't afford it, but you also can't afford to let this continue if it's something you're concerned is damaging to the child.

I really hate to hear that...I know your husband loves his kids, but to think that his and your hard earn money is giving his ex a better life style...has your husband ever thought about talking to his ex best friend?

Not sure that will help...just a thought...I am no expert but have heard stuff from my sister-in-law dealing with her husband's ex...she really gives them a hard time...

I would definitely seek council and try to go back to court....good luck....

thanks. Yes we have talked with his ex best friend. We went to dinner just the 4 of us one night. He likes the lifestyle he has become familiar with...He (the new husband) wants all of the kids to be homeschooled. As a matter of fact, he is trying to just swoop in and take over. The kids call him Daddy, which kills my husband. They call me by my first name, not Mommy. At first they were forced to call him Daddy. When my husband would question them on it, they said they were corrected by their mom each time they called him by his name. She would tell them to call him Daddy. My husband confronted her about it and she said No, the kids just love him and want to call him that. It all stinks. Kids are the ones punished when Mom and Dad can't get it right.

Thanks for all of the help