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Date: Wed, 03/04/2009 - 13:14

Submitted by urrrlacher
on Wed, 03/04/2009 - 13:14

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First of all thanks to everyone on this site, your knowledge and helpfulness is truly a blessing.
That said how did this all start?
I am sure my story is very similar to many here but I still feel the need to bore everyone with my plight.
Sure the economy is tough and has a lot to do with getting in this mess but I have also lost nearly 60% of my income (our income). My wife is a realtor…nuff said but what really hurts is I am a compulsive gambler, have been for many years.
I have been back in forth with trying to curtail my gambling but when the going gets tough I go gamble. Disastrous results every time.
I have a very beautiful family and am out of second chances.
For years I have gone for help but always relapsed, I can no longer afford another relapse.
I am committed to get my life in order. It won’t be easy but I am willing to do the work.
I am involved with a group (anonymity) that brings compulsive gamblers together. If I was reduced to taking out these insane loans perhaps others here were as well and for the same reason. If anybody needs a lending ear I can be here for you or at least point you in a good direction.
Thanks kindly,


Thanks for sharing that and for your desire to give back. I commend you for your fortitude in overcoming what basically is an addiction as powerful as drugs or smoking or alcoholism. My father had a gambling problem but I did not realize how bad. When he told the bookmaker 10 times I thought that was ten dollars not 100. I learned later that he was basically betting his whole paycheck every week on sports.
He did overcome it when he owed a lot of money to the wrong people. It scared him straight.
It is good that you are doing it through support.


lrhall41

Submitted by Frogpatch on Wed, 03/04/2009 - 13:22

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In addition to the support group for gambling, it may be worth your while to see a therapist or counselor also. If you have insurance or can otherwise pay for the sessions. Like you said, when you are under stress, the gambling surfaces. This may be an avenue for you to obtain some compensatory strategies other than gambling. With most addictions, the gambling may serve as a stress reduction, until the guilt sets in. Good luck to you and remeber, you deserve happiness.


lrhall41

Submitted by dell hughes on Thu, 03/05/2009 - 07:38

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Thanks, nohiogal

Thanks, dell...I do have a therapist whom specializes in gambling. When thoughts of dread consume your whole being it is time to get help. The alternative...insanity, jail even death are not a healthy option.

Thanks for your insight.


lrhall41

Submitted by on Thu, 03/05/2009 - 07:51

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Thank you kstaff24

Once I get out of my own hell-hole, my hope is to stay on this board and help others as folks, as yourself, have helped me. However, not until I am comfortable and have laid some of these debt to rest will I post any recommendations. I will only do so after I have some resolution and can honestly give good advise.

I'm afraid all hell may break loose tomorrow when these ACH's are due to hit. I was again at the bank today and was assured nothing will hit my new account.

I hope, at least the phone calls don't start until after the weekend...need a little peace.


lrhall41

Submitted by on Thu, 03/05/2009 - 09:13

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