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Poor Me

Date: Sat, 05/13/2006 - 02:11

Submitted by anonymous
on Sat, 05/13/2006 - 02:11

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I am educated/degreed and had a great job, for many years. I had a big, beautiful home, with nice furniture, and an inground swimming pool. I even had a ski boat. I owned a Mercedes and other nice cars. My diamond ring was almost 2 carats. I traveled the US and outside the country. I bought new clothes, monthly.

Now, I am unemployed. I have been for 5 years. I no longer have a home. I am homeless, and living with a friend(who has loud,messy, disrepectful kids)My furniture is in storage. The ski boat and Mercedes were sold long ago. I sold my rings to pay bills.
I never go swimming anymore. The only time I travel is when someone else pays for the trip. I am wearing old clothes from 2000. I do not have dental insurance and haven't been to a dentist in 3 years.

OK>>>what happened???

I divorced my very abusive husband in 1996. He promised me if I divorced him, he would take everything from me. He told me, "I will get custody, and the kids will disown you. I will take your house, your car, your jewelry, and you won't have a pot to pee in. This is not a threat; it is a promise!!!"

Between 1996 and 2001, my Ex and I were in court 8 times. :shock: My children went to live with their dad and I was ordered to pay extremely high child support and health insurance. The cost of courts, lawyers, and counselors added up to almost $30,000. I had to sell my house and move away because Ex was threatening to harm me and kill me. Ex was still pushing me(physically) around and this turmoil bothered the children. I thought it would be best if I moved away so the chaos would settle down. I moved....

I couldn't find a job and had to live on my house money. :(

It's 2006 and my money is gone and I am still unemployed. And, yes, I am still paying child support even thought I can't find work.

I owe some credit cards that I cannot pay.

Poor me..I hope I will be a rich me, someday! :D


I am so dreafully sorry RSB!

What the hell??? This is injustice! What moron of a judge placed your kids and all of your earnings with that wife-beating sack of sh!t?? My heart is going out to you like never before, you have truly been raked across the coals and you do not deserve to be living such a nightmare!

I am shaking with rage!!! What the f kind of justice system is this??? That f@&er is the one who should be out on his a$$, not you! He should be in jail while you should be in peace!

If it helps at all, I will say a prayer, light a candle for Buddha, or do any kind of ritual based on your faith, ot you can just pm me his name and SSN and I'll go kill him!!!

Sorry to sound so vicious, I am just so angered over this injustice done to you and I so wish I could single-handedly make this all better.

God bless


lrhall41

Submitted by Jedi Mistress Ari on Sat, 05/13/2006 - 16:02

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First off---be thankful that you have still have your health and your life.
Second---remember that there is always somebody that will be a little worse off than you are.
Third---having money is not always the answer to problems. Yes, it does seem like it will heal your immediate concern and it can. However, sometimes we have to hit rock bottom and realize that "things" like money cannot govern our every move. I am not condemning you, but offering some free advice due to my own experiences. Sometimes our pain and anger and frustration is so intense that very simple ideas are looked over because you are not thinking normally from the stress.

Have you registered with a temporary employment agency? I would also suggest consulting a debt consolidation company to see about consolidating your debts. Also check out your local yellow pages and search for a female lawyer that will help you get your children back or at least push for a refiguring of your child support. Also, a local church or synagogue or even your local police department can put you in touch with an organization that offers counseling for domestic violence victims. Help is out there for you, start asking around and I am sure someone can lead you in the right direction. Good luck


lrhall41

Submitted by Lorri on Sat, 05/13/2006 - 20:23

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Thanks for all of your replies.

Soon, my children will be adults. Hopefully things will change. My Ex husband is truly a krook. I have been told that his own karma will bring him down and what goes around.... comes around.

I am very thankful for my health and nice decent place to live. I do work temp jobs. I do not make enough money to pay any old crdeit cards. If the JBD decides to sue, I will just have to go bankrupt.


lrhall41

Submitted by on Sat, 05/13/2006 - 23:11

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Hi RSB -

Your situation infuriates me to no end. I blow my top when I hear of a woman being abused, especially when kids are involved. Things WILL turn around for you, with the support of the people on this board, and some hard work on your part. Karma will come to get that b!$tard, I can guarantee you that. Many of the women on this board have been in similar relationships so we can understand where you were at. We will be thinking of you and keep us posted on any progress that you make.

~Mary


lrhall41

Submitted by Mary on Sun, 05/14/2006 - 15:04

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Hi RSB

I am sad after hearing your situation and pray to God that things improve for you sooner. Even my sister was also having problems with her husband due to his excessive drinking. Finally, they decided to get divorced. I can understand seeing my sister's face when she feels the pain in some occasions, but eventually she feels better coming out of the hell. Life is long!! She does not have any kids. I hope your kids will understand you and stand by your side. I pray to God that your kids offer the protection you needed the most!!


lrhall41

Submitted by john on Sun, 05/14/2006 - 15:06

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