Third Generation Welfare Child

Hi vanidosa27

All I can say is that you have learnt many things from your past and now, you have become more matured towards life.

Always remember, life is not a bed of roses but at the same time, it won't be filled with thorns also all the time. Day and night; happiness and sorrow; these are all part of life. Nothing stays for a long time. They are like separating winds and will have to go away.

You have so much talent in you. Try to use these skills in a desired place. You will have a refreshing outlook and memories of the past will fade away.

I wish you all the best in life and pray for your happiness.

Regards
Roxette

vanidosa27,

You've seem to have come such a long way. Some people have a harder life than others, no doubt. The people that have a harder life have to WORK harder to improve their life and the lives of their children and that is definately honorable. When you accomplish your degree and you get a higher paying job and give your children a more fortunate life...you can say you did all of it BY YOURSELF. Nobody handed you anything and you did it and that is amazing. I hope that you get out of debt and accomplish all of your goals. Welcome to the forums.

Thank you shopaholic. I do believe that one has to be willing to make something of their life and move on. I have a sister that is still in the slums and has no desire to get out. She still hangs around the gang bangers and drug dealers, too. I feel sorry for her children. She calls all the time needing money, but I finally cut her off. I told her that she needs to want to help herself before I will help her. I helped myself. I wish she would seek professional help. I did. I am such a better person now. And like you said I am working hard to achieve a very difficult goal. Thank you for your encouraging words. I can only hope that someday my sister will wake up and smell the coffee.

And thanks to Roxette for keeping me and my family in her prayers. You can visit my website at




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vanidosa27---
You have pulled yourself out of a nowhere situation and are on the right path. I can identify with your situation in some respects. I too was an unwed mother at age 25 and was forced to live on welfare for five years. Receiving welfare benefits never bothered me. I knew it was my right to apply and receive those benefits when I needed them. It was not a pleasant time in my life. But, I did learn that there are things you WANT in life and there are things you NEED in life. I was very humbled during this period, but refused to feel bad about "sucking off welfare" (as some ignorant people have said). I held my head high, eventually went on to go back to work and over the next twenty years earn my bachelor's degree and masters degree. True I have had a unique family situation where everyone has been very supportive emotionally, however we were not wealthy--just working paycheck to paycheck.

Your children will learn from your positive life experiences and the example you are setting for them now as you work to be debt free. Keep up the fight!

I just came across this post and thought I would give you all an update! I am 7 weeks away from graduating with my BAS in Accountancy. I will sit for the the 1st of a 4 part CPA exam in February. I am soooooo excited!

I just read your story from 2006 and you are an inspiration. You should think about speaking at schools about your situation to let kids know they have a way out. Congrats:)

Thank you Liss! I have been thinking about speaking at the pregnancy shelter for teens to let them know that they can still do something with their lives, even though they have gotten themselves in a predicament.

Really,half of this is your fault for getting kicked out of school AND GETTING KNOCKED UP SO MANY TIMES. Do us taxpayers a favor and start using condoms/get your tubes tied.
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you know, some of you exemplify ignorance....

This woman has turned her whole life around because she had the ambition to want more than what her mother had. She worked her tail off to better herself and to provide a better life and example for her children. Yes, she has five children....and now she has a college degree, a new sense of pride and accomplishment, and a world of possibilities. What is the matter with you guys that you complain when she took this initiative to break the welfare cycle?? Rather than attacking her, you should be APPLAUDING her for her drive and the fact that she chose not to settle. If any of you knew anything about the ghetto, you would know that many people choose to stay there because they are not willing to do what it takes to get out! She could have been just another one of those folks....but she chose not to be. Now, her children can grow up with a mother that shows them that they can accomplish anything.....and you idiots are knocking her for that??

Congratulations on your degree! Keep moving ahead, and keep us updated! It takes a very strong will to not give up when it seems like the whole world keeps crapping on you.....very cool testimony!

Thank you skydiver. I saw this post and chose to ignore it. I don't allow ignorant people or negative remarks to phase me in my journey. You made some good points. I'd like to add to them. My children will be college educated, because I took the initiative to obtain my degree. In the ghetto, ignorance breeds ignorance. It's not about if they want to get out or not, many people don't know they can.
I am currently a cost accountant for a closely held manufacturer and I have opened my own income tax business. My business is growing and I hope to quit my day job and do taxes from January thru June and vacation for the rest of the year! :-) hey, it may be wishful thinking, but if I wasn't a dreamer I would've never gotten this far! :-)
I have also been elected to the board of directors for a local non profit that helps pregnant teens! I volunteer at their events and I talk to the girls about the many ways they can overcome their situation by educating themselves and bettering their child's life.
I am also currently taking a live review class to pass the CPA exam (my next goal in life) after that I'll work on my MST. ;-)
Again, thank you for your kind words and encouragement! Ignorant people do not require a response from me. :-)