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Opening a can of worms!

Date: Sun, 05/13/2007 - 08:36

Submitted by Tweety71
on Sun, 05/13/2007 - 08:36

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I know I'm taking a risk here but, Why cant men just be OPEN and HONEST with women?! :roll:


There are few men that are that open.It takes a good woman to break open that automatic shield that men raise. I am in the minority in that I say what I think and the heck with the consequences. Sometimes that gets me in trouble with the wife when she wants me to answer open ended questions. Now that I am older,I claim exemption and refuse to answer any open ended questions. Really hate them minefields!


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Submitted by cajunbulldog on Sun, 05/13/2007 - 08:51

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I find it is easier to talk to women than men alot of the time. Lots of men try to hide behind their fear of not being macho enough and only talk about sports and their jobs when there is a whole world of other things. Women on the other hand are open books. Unfortunately I find women mistrust each other more than men but for good reasons I guess.


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Submitted by Frogpatch on Sun, 05/13/2007 - 09:04

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Well after a nightmare of experiences with some very,very,ugly men in my younger years....I must say that I have been blessed with many angels now....the 1st is my husband...I have absolutely no clue how he puts up with me. And, just recently I too have found cajun,Mike, and Vikas to be very sincere. And after my history with men it is very hard for me to trust...so if I do open up and trust...then that person is truly a specail person and I am getting better as I get older at being able to select the sheep from amongst the wolves.


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Submitted by Moondanzer on Sun, 05/13/2007 - 10:20

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I hate men today. I have been playing mommy to my stepdaughter ever since 1999 and do you think my husband is even considerate enough to tell me happy mothers day? Hell no. Every damn year it is the same thing. Nobody appreciates a damn thing that I do. I hate mother's day. He has full custody so it's not like I only took care of her on weekends. I have taken care of this kid like she was my own. And nobody even bothers to say a word.


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Submitted by Sassnlucy on Sun, 05/13/2007 - 10:26

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Awwwwwww....hun.....what a terrible day you must be having. The father of my 2 kids was really, really bad also. If it were his week-end he wouldn't even trade with me. So I shed a lot of tears also. But, just remember what comes around alwasy goes around. And, you my dear are very sweet, kind, and unselfish. Children are not blind.....it may take a while but things will come back round for you. And, alas, I too am here alone on Mother's day as all my kids live out of state and my hubby is on the road. So for me is just another day too. So come on...let's have a margarita(it's 5pm somewhere...LOL) and I'll drink to you and you can drink to me. I really do know from experience that things do get better....no matter how tuff it may seem now. Sending you hugs and love!


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Submitted by Moondanzer on Sun, 05/13/2007 - 10:35

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Sassy,I would say it is time to put the foot down.I raised my oldest from age 3 and finally adopted this year and we had two others along with him. I gave him the choice of what he wanted to call me and it was daddy from day one.I wished my wife Happy Mothers Day yesterday and I will say HAPPY MOTHERS DAY to everyone on this forum.


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Submitted by cajunbulldog on Sun, 05/13/2007 - 10:38

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Thanks...you guys are sweet. I just told him that nobody bothers to wish me a happy mother's day and that nobody appreciates me and he said him and the dogs told me happy mother's day this morning..must have been when I was SLEEPING!!! And I said, it is not just the dogs!!!!! I am talking about the one I have been raising since she was about 8 years old and you guys don't even care. He said, we appreciate you every day. Bullsh*$. Whatever. And of course my stepdaughter is with her biological mother today, who abandoned her for 3 years and just showed back up last year and said she wasn't able to visit for the last three years or even call because she had to WORK. So they are having a big old mother's day celebration over there. At least my dogs love me. I love you all on this forum :D You guys are the greatest. Moondanzer.....drink up!!!


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Submitted by Sassnlucy on Sun, 05/13/2007 - 11:06

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That is so true,Moon. My son's sperm donor lives about 200' from my house and couldn't be bothered to be a daddy or support him in any way. Now that donor must reap what he has sown.My son is now mine and frankly has no use for seeing that donor for any reason except maybe a roll in the grass to knock some sense into him.


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Submitted by cajunbulldog on Sun, 05/13/2007 - 11:23

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Dont feel bad...I used to make sure the step kids had everything that they needed but then one time Shaun told me that I could not discipline his son for coloring all over my wall so I stopped! I am not going to spoil a kid if I cannot discipline him when its appropriate...I was not going to spank him but I sure thought he should have scrubbed the wall but I had to do it!


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Submitted by Leah on Sun, 05/13/2007 - 11:35

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The things I have read on here almost make me feel ashamed of my gender. I can't believe the atrocious insensitive behavior of the guys you speak about. I have always been the guy on whose shoulder you cried when your guys treated you (I do not mean you personally) poorly. It was strange to me back then that you always ran back to the creeps when there were so many nice guys out there. I am a very open and caring individual but always got kicked to the curb for it when I was younger, divorced, and trying to date. Nice guys did finish last lots of the time back then. I finally met someone who appreciated kindness and did not mistake it for weakness. We have been married for 23 years. Please don't assume all guys are not open and become anti male. There are lots of good ones out there. Just stop being attracted to the bad ones. Learn how to recognize them from the get go and move on to someone better. You all diserve better.


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Submitted by Frogpatch on Mon, 05/14/2007 - 06:54

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Leah,if thats your real picture there you should have no trouble picking whomever you want. You are sweet, selfless and caring. What more could a guy want?


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Submitted by Frogpatch on Mon, 05/14/2007 - 07:17

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Frog is right.I used to be the designated shoulder in school and I would get so upset with these women dating these so called men when they could be going for a decent man like me! :wink: There are a few good men left out there,but they are hard to find.Just like finding a good woman.Mine is good so I ain't letting go of her for anything.


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Submitted by cajunbulldog on Mon, 05/14/2007 - 08:01

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Well,like I said they are not easy to find nor will most of them be popular but they are findable. I met my firsst wife in a club and got a divorce.I met my current wife at the post office pying bills and taking care of business.She tried to run me off for two years and then when she turned up pregnant,I married her.She had to waddle down the altar,but we got hitched by a catholic priest. Now there is no getting rid of me! :twisted:


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Submitted by cajunbulldog on Mon, 05/14/2007 - 09:10

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