Christmas Means Reconcilliation

Ks, What an inspiration. I am glad that talking to your mom was ok. 3 years is a long time not to speak to someone. Have a very merry Christmas, and all the best for you in 2008

Thanks, my mom is the definition of tough old broad...

I'm glad it's working for you. With luck, one day I'll find it in me to try talking to my folks again. It's been years......

I'm so happy for you kscornell :D
I only Wish that my 83 year old Father-In -Law would call one of his kids. It has been 3 years since our Chritmas cards were returned "no one here with by that name"
He is missing out on a really loving family and may never get to meet his great granddaughter.
We Love you DAD..........were ever you are.

I know what you mean, Mom. My daughter is 18 and a college freshman and has never met my mom. That's all I can say.

I havent talked to my sisters, dad and grandmother in 4 years....they are missing out on my daughter growing up. I ran into some trouble with my marriage and they cannot forgive me....although my dad has been divorced 3 times so its like the pot calling the kettle black. :(

I'm so sorry to read all of this. I only hope for everyone single one of you that the day will come that everyone comes together again. It's so sad to think of all the wasted years that could have been shared. I will be thinking of every one of you. :rose:

I,too, find this so sad for all of you, and hope that things will cahnge.

My dad died 26 years ago at the age of 50. In the next 5 years, I believe, I lost all of my family members on both sides of my family,except my mom, brother and a couple of cousins somewhere. Most died from this heart disease we have in our family-young cousins too.

I would love to have family now- I also would love to have back all the mopments that I could have been nicer,reached out,said that I loved them more,visited more,etc.

This year I am making a promise to myself to let all resentments that have kept me prisoner go-love more and tell others they are loved..Karen

[quote=Bossy4455]I would love to have family now- I also would love to have back all the mopments that I could have been nicer,reached out,said that I loved them more,visited more,etc.

This year I am making a promise to myself to let all resentments that have kept me prisoner go-love more and tell others they are loved..Karen[/quote]

Maybe that means you're a better person than I, Karen. I hope so.

I'd like to re-connect with my family. It's been about seven years now, over something that's likely stupid and trivial in the grander scheme of things. When my ex and I went splits, the ex got to my family with her side of events, knowing it'd be days before I even knew what was goin' on [I was out of state on business, unreachable]. To this day, I don't have any idea what she told them, or how many times, but they took her word [known liar] over mine. Wouldn't even listen to me, even though I had ironclad proof that she was lyin' her ass off.

Maybe this summer I'll get on the bike and ride down there... Pay'em a visit. Hell, it's only 2500 miles. Maybe we can work through things. If not, it'd still be a nice ride, huh?

Unc- don't know that I am a better person-just a lot older :lol: I hope things go ok for you and your family.

There are some things that can't be undone- but I want to know that I tried that one last time- and then it's up to them--sometimes they can't or won't forget.

I had an aunt that disowned me and my brother after my dad died, as did alot of his family-don't know why and they never would get over whatever it was they were mad at. I tried and tried-apologized if I had hurt their feelings, etc. But in the end, I knew that I had done all I could,,and my slate was clean-so to speak!

You're right, it will be a nice ride--and you are a good person!!..Karen :D

I had been avoiding posting to this thread for many reasons. It tugs so deeply at my heart strings. I too have been estranged from my only realitive , my brother for many many years. i have tried to reconcile, but it never worked. I have a neice who I would not know if I passed her on the street. It is so sad, but I also believe that I have done everything possible to make us a family ,and was pushed away everytime . My slate is also clean. I wonder if the hurt will ever go away, or at least lessen

It will- it just takes time. And remember-just because it hasn't happened yet- doesn't mean it never will. Maybe your brother will reach a point in his life where he is able to reach out to you--and you are right-- your slate is clean.

I said many prayers for God to open someones heart and mind years ago with a big rift I had with a family member--it took a really long time--but it did work.

Good Luck to you--you are in my prayers..KAren :D

[quote=Bossy4455]Unc- don't know that I am a better person-just a lot older I hope things go ok for you and your family.[/quote]


Thanks for the well-wishes, Karen. It means a lot.

And don't be too certain on the age thing, either, just because I've talked about my Demon Children [3, 5, and 7-ish]. I have two others, 21 and 28. My avatar pic doesn't show the grey in my beard to best advantage. :lol:

[quote=kashzan]I had been avoiding posting to this thread for many reasons. It tugs so deeply at my heart strings. I too have been estranged from my only realitive , my brother for many many years. i have tried to reconcile, but it never worked. I have a neice who I would not know if I passed her on the street. It is so sad, but I also believe that I have done everything possible to make us a family ,and was pushed away everytime . My slate is also clean. I wonder if the hurt will ever go away, or at least lessen[/quote]


Funny thing there........ They say that time has a way of healing all wounds. There's a reason why that's become an 'old saying'. Because it's true. There's another 'old saying' that's common among bikers. Each of us has two families: the one we're born into, and the one we choose for ourselves.

You ever need me, my email's in my profile.

UNC, How true that statements is. My family NOW are the people that I love and Chose to have in my life. Thanks so much for your knid words and even kinder deeds. Have a great New Year.

Unc- let's not alk about grey hair--only my hairdresser knows :lol: You are eight about the family you choose- I have a great group of people I consider family, and that they always have my back!!..Karen

[quote=Bossy4455]Unc- let's not alk about grey hair--only my hairdresser knows[/quote]

Chicken!

[quote=Bossy4455]You are eight about the family you choose[/quote]

Of course I'm right! How could you ever have doubted me? I thought I was wrong, once. But I turned out to be mistaken.... [/img]

:lol: oh for heavnes sake- didn't mean you were eight- you were right-need to proof read :lol: You are a hoot!!..Karen

wow to me it is so strange ..I always thought my family was the most dysfunctional family that ever existed

as you get older you realize that everyone has family problems and to me the funny thing is this..

take a family gathering.. each side of the family is in their corner talking about how strange and screwed- up the in-laws are right?..
anyways.. I was estranged from one set of grandparents most of my life..had a falling out with a brother for about 8 years..my oldest son has a father and father's family that he doesn't really know and hasn't talked to in 5 years...
I think the main thing is how we ourselves deal with these life experiences and decide what is important to us and what will be important in the long run..if you have a family member who may be gone soon and you will regret not making amends then by all means..make that first attempt..and if it doesn't mean that much to you ...then it really wasn't family even if blood was involved..
still the family that I have in my heart and will always have with me ...is the thing I will lay down and die for! and family is a wonderful thing!