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Date: Mon, 11/12/2007 - 17:26

Submitted by Mike
on Mon, 11/12/2007 - 17:26

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I came back early in the morning after a lot of seminars and meetings I had to go through. The first thing that I was dying for was to log in the board and see you guys. It never happened earlier that I was away from here for a week. I wanted to see you all together and keeping this board in place. Sadly enough, I might have over-expected few things. I ran through a few posts where some people are offended by other's comments and deciding that this this is not the place for them to stay. I had to sit back and think for a while and understand if this is happening right. Well, I put myself in your shoes and try to figure out what's wrong. I realize that I am feeling very hurt because this person next to me in my job is not fair towards me. He doesn't even understand what I have been thinking. He is always criticizing on my every move and never wants to be with me. Well, what am I supposed to do now?? Should I quit from my work?? Should I not come back just because someone is not appreciating and understanding my thoughts. Am I working day in and day out just because of him?? No!!! Why should I go away just for someone who has never been understanding towards me. I have so many others in the office who care for me and show respect to me.. Is it not fair for me to stay with those and talk with people who like me so much and keep those people away who will never match with me. Well, they had never been close to me to begin with. So, why go away from my work just because of one person. The best part to deal with this situation will be to not respond to any of his comments and be normal. He will try to provoke me because that's how it has been all this time. he doesn’t even deserve to get my attention.

I have made these lines in a very general term. I want you guys to understand what I needed to mention here. I am not supporting or standing against one single person. I am just trying to present a situation and this will be my first reaction to a problematic situation. Each of you know yourself. It’s very easy to show fingers and criticize the other person who was never liked. But to me, I believe that a person will come out as a better individual only when he understands and analyzes every situation very rationally. When you have become popular, critics will follow you and for most of the time, it will be not what you expected. Deal with it and stand as a successful person in every phase of life. I take it as a chance to grow in a matured way without showing any emotional outburst.

Mike


I also am here to support everyone. If there is anything I can do to help, I am here. Anyone can just ask, as fins posted. We are here.


lrhall41

Submitted by cannr on Mon, 11/12/2007 - 17:48

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Luke I know you are always with me. And I thank you for being so nice to others as well. You will always show up as a nice and dear person to your friends. I have seen the depth in your words when you feel thankful to some unknown person for the help s/he did to you. At this moment, if someone asks for your support, just give it freely. :) You will never know how much it means to the other person. And you will feel special.

Fins, you are a great person. People who talk with you know what a nice person you are!!! I can't even imagine for a second that you are not here for few days. You will be deeply missed if that happens unfortunately. Everyone here have made a few friends and it????????s important that we all stay together.


lrhall41

Submitted by Mike on Mon, 11/12/2007 - 17:48

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FYI you are so right...Mike holds us all together and where would we be without him? I don't know what happened either but I support everyone who takes the time to post here in trying to help others. Most all of us have been on the other end of that at a trying time in our lives..how can we ever forget that. I have made friends here too that I look for every time I post if just to see what they are saying and learn as much as I can. I learned a long time ago you can't please everyone but if you stay true to your heart, you can't go wrong.


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Submitted by Morningstarr430 on Tue, 11/13/2007 - 03:47

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I haven't been on much lately, and I probably won't be on much in the near future. Things are incredibly crazy for me right now, and my time on the computer is very limited. I try to sign in and check messages, but replying to posts right now is something I can't keep up with. Looks like everyone has filled in where I was posting anyway, so I'm sure it's not a big deal.

Whatever is going on here, we've weathered these sort of storms before. Those who have been here for a year or so will know what I mean. We've had some pretty bad situations come up, and when those happen, we always manage to stick together and get through it. And we'll do it again. :D


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Submitted by SUEBEEHONEY70 on Tue, 11/13/2007 - 04:56

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Mike once again ur words ring so true to my ears! (or my eyes in this case) Thanks for all u do to hold this place together, it is greatly appreciated.
I think this forum is big enough for all of us to post on.... Everyone has something to offer here, whether it be knowledge or just support for others going thru desparate times. I know when i first came here sometimes just the words of encouragement were what i needed to hear. (and the knowledge NEVER hurt)
I think everything will work out, life has a way of working out and everything once again will be good here!
:D
Ang


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Submitted by Ang on Tue, 11/13/2007 - 05:16

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Mike I am not a mod, debt sam..or hall of famer...but I wanted to post to let you know...I agree with you.
Things that happen in life are challenging..but sometimes they do just make us stronger. I don't know what happened here...however I have received good sound advice and help with my debts and it's been a great relief. Keep up the good work!


lrhall41

Submitted by laura19544 on Tue, 11/13/2007 - 05:41

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coexist

intr.v. co????ex????ist????ed, co????ex????ist????ing, co????ex????ists
1. To exist together, at the same time, or in the same place.
2. To live in peace with another or others despite differences, especially as a matter of policy

Every person who sacrifices a piece of their day to log in to this community in an effort to assist perfect strangers is cherished and very special.

As with any exchange, humans do not see eye to eye at all times, but we are on a planet where we must coexist with one another or disasters occur. Our slice of the planet that this community offers is no different.

Despite the differences that we share in opinions, debt is what brings every person here.


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Submitted by polly on Tue, 11/13/2007 - 05:55

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Gee Mike, who would have thought Jason was so hard to work with? J/K

Your words are so true, and heartfelt! So many times in my life I have encountered people who are just naturally condescending, it seems that's all they know how to do is ridicule everything. Maybe those people are not happy with themselves, and therefore cannot stand to see other people happy either. "Misery loves company."

Whatever the reason may be, my personal adage has always been to 'kill them with kindness.' Granted sometimes I can't always do that. But I do find if you don't feed into this person's cynicism, it riles them up to a point where they can't take it and they move on to their next target. In other words, these people are looking to pick a fight, and if you don't give it to them they leave. It is easy to enter into a name-calling match with this person, but sometimes you have to be the better person and walk away.

I think I have gotten off on the bad foot with a few posters here, just because I tend to be straightforward and I don't sugarcoat things. A lot of people don't like that because they think I am personally attacking them, and so they come off on the offensive. I always try to counter with logic instead of sarcasm.

You have always done a good job keeping things together here, Mike, and we all appreciate it. Just don't let malicious posters get to you.


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Submitted by DebtCruncher on Tue, 11/13/2007 - 06:00

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Mike, I can only add that not only do you keep this forum together, you offer kinds words so freely because this is very natural for you. There are people who are naturally condescending as Debt points out, but there are many more people who are good and have good intentions and sometimes it's hard when you come across negativity to see that all the time. I know from experience that you go out of your way to encourage forum members and believe me that means far more than words can express. You're valued and we appreciate all you do!


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Submitted by debtstinker on Tue, 11/13/2007 - 07:49

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I get the distinct feeling a lot of this all hinges on me. I try to be an agreeable person, and I am sure some may support me. In the same breath, I am sure many think I am a total @sshole. That's fine, too. Trust me - I know I can be a real jerk sometimes. A great majority of that time, I don't know I am being a jerk. But if you ask my friends, they will tell you and I am a pretty upstanding guy. I will be supportive, and I am one of the first to admit when I have been wrong.

All I ask is that you come to me. Talk to me about any issue you have with me. I will bust my butt to explain myself, and if in the conversation I realize I have been wrong, I will apologize. And continue to apologize to the point you will be sick of me apologizing, and then I apologize more.

So if all this is my fault, all I ask is that someone talk to me about the issues you have. I am what I am, and you probably will not change too much about it. But you are who you are, and I have no plans to change you. I am sure there are many things we agree on and some we don't. Thank God for that, cuz the hell if I wanna be like you!!!! :) Seriously - we are all different, and we agree on this and disagree on that. In the long run, our disagreements don't cause that large a change in the world.

But without disagreements, we cannot have change in this world. If we all just did that same thing, we become stagnant. Innovation stops. Creativity dies. We need to disagree to move forward as a community, as a nation. We need to hear the dissenting voices of our neighbors. A wise man once said "I don't agree with what you have to say, but I will fight to defend your right to say it". That is what we are all about.

If anyone has an issue with me, please PM me. We can work it out, ala The Beatles.


lrhall41

Submitted by jedijeff13 on Tue, 11/13/2007 - 08:26

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Everyone has been so real in this thread and they know themselves better. This is enough to correct a few things that went wrong in the past.

Jeff, you are straight and I really appreciate you for that. You clearly bring out from your words that you are an understanding person. Guess, if someone is having a problem with you, your lines are enough to express your true feelings. I have always liked you for being here and so do others. We know you for a long time. If someone is having any problems, be straight and share your problems privately with others. There is nothing that CANNOT be corrected. And ultimately, have that sweet smile in your face. It????????s something that everyone wants to have.


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Submitted by Mike on Tue, 11/13/2007 - 08:44

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Mike i am trying to write like this because is more
beautiful.
I will try to do things better now.
I like to write capital letters because is easy for me.
Mike you are a wonderful person,a great friend and
fantastic member of this forum.
Polly your post is so beautiful and i love to read it.
finsfan13 i admire very much you because nothing can stop you to help people in this forum.


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Submitted by tsacgiv on Tue, 11/13/2007 - 12:29

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tania, you write any way you like, honey. Your posts are wonderful to read no matter how you write them. We love you, tania! :hug:


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Submitted by cannr on Tue, 11/13/2007 - 12:40

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Poor ladybug! :( I hate it when that happens!!!


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Submitted by cannr on Tue, 11/13/2007 - 19:03

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