negative posts

I agree with you Fins. I posted in another thread about how I would not respond to these type of posts. I come here to give back what was given to me-help and hope. I agree it totally takes away from what we are doing here,plus takes up alot of the forum space. I am too old,not getting any younger,to waste my time with them. They are kinda like when my kids were young and whiny(sometimes still are),and I would ignore them and they would go away,but the mor attention I paid to them,they just got louder!!..Karen

You're absolutely right Karen. I'm always telling my little boy to "be the better guy". This place was a Godsend to me, to you, and to a lot of other people. I'm going to do my best to make sure it stays that way.

Me too! My grandmother used to tell me that people who put others down,cursed,or were mean to others,were just showing their ignorance.I still am working on the cussing,but,I don't do the other stuff :lol: ...Karen

lol..Yeah, I have a tendancy to have a bit of a potty mouth at times, too..But I'm pretty good about appropriate timing on that!! I've never been a mean person, either. Plus, I'm extremely sensitive and tend to take things to heart when I shouldn't. For the life of me, I don't see the fun in making another person feel bad. I really don't.

Hey guys, I just deleted that mierable "Dumb People" thread over in the collection agencies forum. I moderate that one and that guy was just dragging everyone down with sniveling misery and insolence. You will not have to see that mess again!

You know,you would think that as a counselor I wouldn't take thing to heart,but I do too.I have always been the one who fights for the under dog!...karen

Thanks Ari, you rock. That guy was getting really nasty and out of control.

Thanks, I also deleted one of those "Jersey Kid" posts a while back. That's the way to address this stuff! So good to be a moderator!

Yea for Ari!!It was getting so ridiculous and so mean spirited. Not good for attracting new people to the community!1...Karen

I love you guys!! Time to clean the place up again!

Hi

When there is a pain, don't let it stay inside you. Let it burst out. People here care for you. They will offer you good support and make you feel stronger.

I am sorry about the negative posts kept in this forum. This is lately happening in almost every other online forum. The purpose of a board is to offer individual views and opinions about a current situation. If any of the negative post is deleted, visitors coming in the future will not understand the history of this board and how a strong community that you people made came into evolution. You stand for all and everyone will be there besides you. That's the strength of the community.

Let's say, if a negative post is deleted, the poster will be successful in his motives and he will try to do it again on someone else. Maybe, he will repeatedly post with aggression. If he is blocked from posting here, he will get another IP address and mark his entry. What's the use to play a hide and seek game with just a handful of people? I know, responding to an individual post is your personal choice and I will respect whatever decision is taken. Deleting the posts somehow means keeping only one side of the action. Remember, I also had to go through a lot of acquisitions in the past and it????????s still available on the board.

I hope you will understand the situation fairly.

Regards
Vikas

I love u guys too! It's time to get this thing back to doing what it is intended to do-hep people.Thanks,guys...Karen

I see your point Vikas, And you are right. I have calmed down quite a bit in the last little bit.

I understand that everyone has their rights. But I think it's horrendous when a person is personally attacked just for being in debt. That "dumb people" thread was so unbelievable. The insults were the worst I have ever seen. I really really care about this community and the people here, and I hate to see people who have come so far get knocked down. Maybe a poster has the right to knock someone for being in debt, but they have no right to personally attack someone. That stuff hurts.

But..I will not answer the negative posts, and do my share of keeping things positive and helpful. If we keep that up, the mean people will get bored and go away. Thank you for listening, I appreciate eveything you do for us.

You know,Vikas you may be right.These people won't stop that easily and will come back and do it again.For my part,I am just going to ignore it,unless it gets too out of hand,then I'll PM you! I'm like fins-I want to keep this forum full of help and hope,just like others did for me...KAren

amen to that, Karen! There's more good than bad, anyway. We'll keep it that way.

I was so lucky to find this forum. It is a godsend, I can't say that enough, I was in a desparate situation and you guys helped so much and were nonjudgemental. It is embarassing when you find yourself in a pdl mess and to seek help is even more embarassing. I'm like you finsfan, I can have a potty mouth as well, but I do not intentionally go after somebody for fun, it is usually in response to something negative, people will say two wrongs don't make a right. But when I read what some of the posts have said, it just made me so angry, and I had to vent. I can't keep anger bottled up and my defense is to let it all out. Sometimes it's hard to ignore the negative posts especially when the insults are so bad. But I am going to try to ignore them and not post any of my negative feedback to the person, I know that is what they want.

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lol at Vikas!!!Yes,I remember that well...KAren

I don't remember that one, Vikas..C'mon, give us a link!!

Trust me, Steelers, I feel angry also when I read slams about me or my friends..I want to tear the bad guys up. But then it gets worse, and people get ugly, and stuff starts to hurt.

I guess we all have to be careful not to feed the animals too much!! :lol:

We do understand, there are several sides to every story. Heck, I used to be a collector and I have seen and heard it all and still kept an open mind. My reason for deleting two whole threads in the past is because the introduction to the thread was either a mockery of this forum or a direct insult. This time around, the poster was making hurtful derogatory comments about Jessi and Tammy, and them myself. It is one thing to state an opinion and disagree with someone, it is another to just be verbally abusive, and I don't like to see the people I'm helping, who I am friends with, being verbally abused. That poster is more than welcome to come back and talk just as long as he is an adult about it and is respectful. If he's going to pick another fight, I will feel compelled to delete the thread.

As I stated in my previous posting, I will not be responding to people who post as guest.

Every decision taken is respected. Ari, you had a very strong reason to delete the particular topic, so feel easy with what you have done. You didn't want to see your friends and this forum looked down. I appreciate it whole heartedly. :) There are always several sides to every story. I forwarded my point on that basis.

finsfan13, here is the link for you. :)

http://www.debtconsolidationcare.com/student-discussion/about14202.html

Tammy, you are a strong person and I appreciate the help you have given to people in the last few months. If you haven't posted to a "guest" in the past who needed help, the person won't have registered here and perhaps, he/she is one of your best friends now. Not all guests are tagged 'bad', I feel. :)

I realize all guests are not bad ones. You are right, some of the guests I have posted to, we have become friends.

I am glad that you are feeling easy. Categorize those who will make you feel important. My sympathies for people going through financial problems, especially single mother having kids, if everyone shuts the door because they are posting as 'guests', how they will get a direction unless the community responds. We all are good people by heart, isn????????t it?? And we know very well who will value our importance.

Vikas, you have such great insight. I am so grateful to have found this site and for you making it possible in the first place. It's a shame that people like to have fun at other people's expense. As Amy said, what kind of fun someone gets from that is beyond me. However, even though there may be negative posts, the positives far outweigh the negatives, and a guest reading the posts I think would still be encouraged by all the positive posts that they read.

Hello to everyone. As a frequent visitor to this site, I am as disturbed as you all are about the negeative posts that appear here often. I don't agree that anyone should personally attack anybody. I do have some concern about the freedom of members to be able to delete posts that they personally feel should be deleted. As a non member, I have read and used all kinds of information from this site, and it has been a tremendous help to me. I don't wish to be a member, not for any particular reason, I just don't. I hate to think that because of my status, my questions and comments may be completely ignored. This is just my feeling. Have a good night!

They won't be ignored! The threads that were deleted by me certainly weren't ignored, they were outrageous. Nobody goes unseen on this forum, that I guarantee you.

Ari is absolutely right. The purpose of this board is to help and educate. Everyone's opinion is welcome here..Member or guest. The diversity is what makes this place so wonderful. We have all posted hings that everyone doesn't agree with, and we've all been miffed at what someone else has said. It's only when things are hurtful and just downright ugly that they need to go. That thread could've potentially hurt a few people's feelings very badly, and that is not ok.

non-member, I'm glad to know that this site has helped you, that's what we're here for. You are just as valued as any of us, I mean that.

Me three, guys. You are all such an inspiration to me as a newbie--and I got so mad about that jerk who posted slamming good people who just happened to make mistakes--as if we all haven't made plenty!
I am currently having a bumpy road negotiating my way out of my personal PDL mess, which I accept full responsibility for and this site is saving my life!
So thanks again and I hope to come back here often...

I'm glad you're here! The begining of the road out of the PDL mess is definitely a rocky one, I know, but trust me..It gets a lot smoother as it goes on. And when things start to get better, they get better fast. We're here for you.

And what do you mean..You "hope to come back here often". That's not going to happen, because you're not going anywhere in the first place! You're one of us now bud!

Vikas,

You have made some valuable points. It just seems that the attacks keep getting more frequent around here. I guess some people just don't have anything else to do. I almost left this site when I was personally attacked all over the forum. I know all of those posts were not deleted and that is okay with me. Some great people came to my aid. I also understand Tammy's reasoning for her decision as well and I respect that. I also feel like I was a guest once and someone came to my aid. If they hadn't, I wouldn't be a member now. I hate to see people attacked on the forum but I guess it happens on other sites as well. I really don't know since this is where I choose to come. I learn something new every day here. I learn a lot from those who contribute as guests as well. 8)

I guess I've learned over the last few months, it's not worth responding to the negative posters. It's not worth stressing yourself out over, believe me on this one. I used to get so upset so I don't respond anymore. Believe me, I've been tempted but I feel like I'm just adding fuel to an unneccessary fire.

Mishele,
I totally agree with you. Like I said on Tammy's post, I really don't give a $hit anymore what people say about me. It irks me when they slam my friends on here, but they have no idea what's happened in their lives or mine for that matter.
So I don't take it personally anymore, they're all just names in cyber space with words.
If they want to come out of the closet and really have something to say, they'd better back it up with some proof, not just blowin' cat turds from their keyboards!

oh Liz..Said with eloquence and class as usual! Lol..miss you.

Thanks buddy...thought you'd like that!
miss ya too!

you know me too well..That's a scary thing. When you off this week?

Lmao...Liz said cat turds. That's awesome.

yep. The only thing nastier is elephant poop. That's a sight to see..One time I was riding an elephant, and it dumped a PILE..Then he stepped in it, and the smell was incredible.

I can imagine...Elephants are huge, so their poop has to be huge too...YUCKO!

ewwww. The things we talk about!

Gals,

How did you know I needed a little chuckle tonight? :lol: I can always count on you gals for a good laugh. It's so true that we don't know these people and they don't know us. It's easy to judge but sometimes it is even better to keep your opinion to yourself. Trust me, I put my foot in my mouth a lot :(

Yeah, my big smelly foot is in my mouth a lot, too..I'm working on that!!

I'm glad we can provide comedy relief for you..You've done that for me before, too..LOL.

Hope things are going ok for you..Thinking of you!

Well, just to jump in here on the "potty" train thread---thought I would mention that someone told me once that the lowest thing in the world someone could be would be "Whale $hit", cause laying on the bottom of the ocean is a low as you can get!!!!!

Hi Lorri!! I've missed you! How's school going?

Not very well (thanks for asking, I have not been working for about 3 weeks. Have been having a major depression episode and not funtioning well, thats why I haven't been on lately. Went to see a new therapist for the first time today, the love of my life broke my heart and of course, money is always a problem in my life ---BUT other than THAT crap---life is just grooooooovvvvyyy :cry:

I'm very, very sorry. I hope the new therapist helps. You are a wonderful person who deserves to be happy...You will get there. If there's anything I can do, please give me a pm or email.

I'm sorry to hear all that! I hope things pick up soon! Just a little update on me, I ended up getting booted from my awful job at the call center, and am now working on getting my insurance license, to tide myself over, I'm working temp for a subprime auto loan company.

thanks both of you---I appreciate your thoughts and prayers--good luck on your new job Arid

Lorri, sorry you're not doing well. I hope the new therapist helps. Sometimes, it helps to talk to someone new, who can maybe be more objective. I hope you're feeling better really soon. Jedi Mistress Ari, I'm sorry to hear about your job. Maybe this will be a blessing in disguise, though. Once I worked at a place where the supervisor was just impossible to work with. I finally just quit (which I've never done in my life without having another job lined up). I ended up working at another place that I just loved. It was more money, the people were nicer, the work was better. Hang in there. I hope tomorrow turns out to be a better day for you.