about to lose my mind
Date: Wed, 12/27/2006 - 10:46
First off . . . Take a deep breath and relax . . . I know it see
First off . . . Take a deep breath and relax . . . I know it seems like the end of the world, but it's not . . . You've been through enough in your life to know that things can and do work themselves out as long as you put the effort in. Call the places you owe money to and explain the situation . . . . As long as you keep in contact with them and let them know whats going on you should be okay.
Beauty - first, calm down. The situation that happened this
Beauty -
first, calm down. The situation that happened this weekend and over Christmas are over and done with, and cannot be helped now. What you need to do now is move forward and solve the more immediate problem of help with rent, etc.
Please check the phone book in your area for a women's aid, Salvation Army, 8 Cap, United Way - anything that is charity-oriented that will help you out. You need to take care of the immediate problem of keeping a roof over your head, and the water, electricity, etc. on, and food on the table.
Start there, and keep us posted. Take some time away from this board to see if you can solve these problems, then let us know what you come up with. In the meantime, I'm sure others will post some suggestions for you. Do some legwork on your own and we'll do what we can here to come up with ideas to help you.
I can't stop shaking. My husband was my best friend so it is har
I can't stop shaking. My husband was my best friend so it is hard to deal with real life by myself now
I can't eat or sleep. Stomach aches, and my head hurts. Now to k
I can't eat or sleep. Stomach aches, and my head hurts. Now to know i face a financial hardship is really hard. I thought i had it all together! Up until christmas day.
He is calling and crying and my mom says it's over, i miss him.
He is calling and crying and my mom says it's over, i miss him. But my biggest concern now are my bills. My welfare.
Why not you try with your bank and see if they can do anything t
Why not you try with your bank and see if they can do anything to help you. If you have a good business relation with them, they will surely do something and help you out of this mess. You can get a small loan from them if your credit scores are good.
Worrying won't help the situation . . . Just work through things
Worrying won't help the situation . . . Just work through things one at a time and soon everything will fall back into place . . . .
i am trying to make calls in between breaks. again as i stated i
i am trying to make calls in between breaks. again as i stated i am a convicted felon so it is hard to get help out here. the programs for cf's are mainly for jobs.
I don't think any charity is going to refuse you help because of
I don't think any charity is going to refuse you help because of being a convicted felon. I don't recall ever being asked that when I needed help.
Check out the Mormon churches in your area . . . I know they hav
Check out the Mormon churches in your area . . . I know they have programs to help people in financial binds . . . You will have to "volunteer" at one of their shops, but I know they do help people out, regardless of their background or religious affiliation. They won't push religion on you either.
i called catholic charity services and i can not even make an ap
i called catholic charity services and i can not even make an appointment until friday and even then it is not a guarentee. first come first serve.
i am trying
keep calling, beauty - try the other charities in the area.
keep calling, beauty - try the other charities in the area.
Beauty---Christmas is over, don't think about that now. You said
Beauty---Christmas is over, don't think about that now. You said your husband keeps calling? I wouldn't talk to him, until you can get your affairs straightened out. Definitely check out your local churches for help. Many offer programs to anyone in need and yes, will usually want you to give some of your time. I would be willing to say that being a convicted felon would have nothing to do with them giving you assistance. This could help you in the long run to connect with a place to get you a better paying job.
Beauty, keep calling and you find some org that will help you, e
Beauty, keep calling and you find some org that will help you, even if it is a little bit take what help you can get and remember that it is the little things that count. Please keep your chin up, you can do it.
Good point Pauli's Girl---every little bit does help. And it can
Good point Pauli's Girl---every little bit does help. And it can always lead to something else, at least in my experience.
Go to this link and click on your county and contact them to fin
Go to this link and click on your county and contact them to find out if there is any temporary rental assistance program:
http://www.hud.gov/offices/pih/pha/contacts/states/fl.cfm
Also try this link and contact them to see if they offer a PRC p
Also try this link and contact them to see if they offer a PRC program. Usually the Dept. of Human Services will not advertise this program. You have to ask about it. It is a retention program. You will have to have an eviction notice/foreclosure notice, utilities must have a termination notice or already be shut off.
http://www.dcf.state.fl.us/ess/tanfweb.shtml
See if there is an agency call "First Call For Help" Or it might
See if there is an agency call "First Call For Help" Or it might be "Call First For Help" in Cleveland we have a hotline that you can call and they give you the county agencies phone numbers. But I think that you need to take a step back and a deep breath. Nothing is going to happen this minute. There is a long weekend coming up (with a holiday attached to it) so things will be delayed - at least for a day or two and that may give you the time you need to get things together.
This is what I love about this community, everyone is always enc
This is what I love about this community, everyone is always encouraging no matter what the problem.
Philip35, if you register then Beauty can PM you since email ad
Philip35, if you register then Beauty can PM you since email addresses aren't published here. OR you can go to her posting and PM her your info.
Beauty, are you kidding? If not, what the heck happened?
Beauty, are you kidding? If not, what the heck happened?
i will, i guess i am having too many problems at one time
i will, i guess i am having too many problems at one time
It could always be worse, I just found out my children's best fr
It could always be worse, I just found out my children's best friends' father was diagnosed with cancer today and it doesn't look good for him.
Oh, Iam so sorry to hear that. I will keep him in my prayers. Yo
Oh, Iam so sorry to hear that. I will keep him in my prayers. You are so right, it could be alot worse..Karen
Thanks Karen. I was sitting with his wife for awhile earlier whe
Thanks Karen. I was sitting with his wife for awhile earlier when she told me, they just found out today. There's just so many other medical issues going on that the surgery that may help they may not be able to perform. Thanks for keeping him in your prayers.
You're welcome :D Kinda puts all this other stuff we have in o
You're welcome :D Kinda puts all this other stuff we have in our lives going on, into perspective..KAren
Steelers - I will be praying for you and your family
Steelers - I will be praying for you and your family
Thanks Suebee, I'm sorry if you misunderstood my post, but nobod
Thanks Suebee, I'm sorry if you misunderstood my post, but nobody in my family was diagnosed with cancer (thankfully, knock on wood), but it was actually my neighbor who just got the news. Thanks.
Steelers..You have my prayers.. Beauty, take a step back and
Steelers..You have my prayers..
Beauty, take a step back and think...Definitely call everyone you owe money to, you can definitely work something out on a short-term basis. Second....Are things really that bad with your husband? If I had a dollar for every fight I've had with my husband, I could pay your bills for you! How long has he been gone..where did he go..And why on earth is your mother telling you it's over?
Oh! I see - sorry about that. I didn't read closely enough!
Oh! I see - sorry about that. I didn't read closely enough!
We can fight against anything in the world but not against natur
We can fight against anything in the world but not against nature or a deadly disease. Steelers, I will be praying for your child's friend's father. May god give him some strength during this time of crisis!
Beauty, reading your posts, I understand what you are going thro
Beauty, reading your posts, I understand what you are going through but at a certain point in time, you are going to get tired of this immaturity way he approaches things and at the same time, you are dealing with debts. Welcome to the real world.
First of all, calm down and realize what you need to do to survive. You need to figure out a plan for yourself. That's the first thing you need to do.
Don't forget YWCA, the local food bank and see if you have a Com
Don't forget YWCA, the local food bank and see if you have a Community Action Program in your city. CAP has a program to assist with rent in emergency situations. I can't agree with going to the Mormons. I'm a defected member and as I recall, the religion is pushed on you very subtly. Yes, you would be required to "donate" time at their storehiouse but then pretty soon the phone calls and invitations and unexpected visits start up. If you don't mind that, then go for it. Just remember, for them, nothing is free -- they expect something in return. This is advice coming from someone who lives in Salt Lake City and works and lives in the culture, so I do know what I'm talking about.
Beauty, I am so sorry to hear about all you are going through, e
Beauty, I am so sorry to hear about all you are going through, especially around the holidays. Salvation Army once helped us out with emergency aid for rent and food. Also, I believe the Dept. of Human Services has an emergency assistance program. Churches are usually a big help, too. The ones that have free meals might have some sort of emergency assistance program, as well. I really hope you get the help you need.
I know how devastated you are emotionally. Your husband is someone you trust, as you said, your best friend. It's really hard when they let you down. Right now, though, your biggest concern has to be for yourself and your children.
The best of luck to you, Beauty. You don't deserve to be going through this, especially now.
Why do you always have to be the center of attention? I don't
Why do you always have to be the center of attention? I don't for one second believe your story.
BEAUTY, I think maybe you should get some counseling. Please d
BEAUTY, I think maybe you should get some counseling. Please do not be offended, there is nothing wrong with it. This is a debt help place and it seems that your life issues are way more than just debt. Most of the people here are nice and do try to help, but I don't think most of them are qualified to give you personal life adivce. Please get yourself some help. I wish you well.
Beauty - would you mind telling us what happened overnight to ma
Beauty - would you mind telling us what happened overnight to make everything ok?
i still don't know what i am gonna do about some things but i am
i still don't know what i am gonna do about some things but i am sorting things out. it was just a snowball effect, and i went insane for a moment.
but thank you for everything
Sooo....you don't have a job, your husband left you, your rent i
Sooo....you don't have a job, your husband left you, your rent is due shortly, you have other bills due, and you are short on money....and everything is ok? Did you get help or not?